Since before our son could toddle, he’s been traveling alongside my husband and me. We’ve bundled him, backpacked him, and “Bijorned” him on boats, planes and automobiles. 

We’ve trekked together across many continents, and explored cities and deserts nearer home, instilling in all of us, a love of exploration and renewal.

Our family odyssey has taught us invaluable lessons — some profound, some hilarious, and some that smelled suspiciously like goat. Here are seven big takeaways from our travels that extend far beyond the school gates.

Curiosity creates lifelong learners

Young people sometimes show a premature weariness with life — it’s all algorithms and eye rolls. But the world outside WiFi is endlessly fascinating.

Our son’s curiosity exploded in the best way possible once he saw how kids lived around the world. We’ve watched pre-teens hunting for food with their parents in Africa, seen children clean their classrooms in Japan, and youngsters fish at dawn, in the Amazon.

In Fiji, we looked on in awe as children made music with found objects, showing a deep resourcefulness and creativity we rarely see at home. My son learned an invaluable lesson that day; when there’s no toy shop, you must make the toys. 

All our minds have been opened many times — and honestly, if my son ever loses interest in TikTok, I’ll credit the children of the Andes.

Confidence comes from climbing, not clicking

True confidence stems from real achievements and a sense of being capable. While American society often promotes confidence, it sometimes leans into a “fake it till you make it” mentality. The idea of posing in front of someone else’s Maserati doesn’t build genuine self-esteem.

True, hands-on experiences create a deeper sense of accomplishment and identity, and travel is a short-cut to that. It’s important your kids, partner, and family see you trying new things, solving problems, and having fun — whether it’s figuring out where to buy sunscreen, replacing lost contact lenses, or picking the perfect picnic spot.

Our family has learned this first hand during our travels. We’ve all faced moments of uncertainty and confusion — wondering where to catch a bus, deciphering signs to find waterfalls, or trying to figure out opening hours in another language. Tackling these challenges together has given us a “we’ve got this” attitude. 

Empathy needs no translation

In this digital world, connecting both to nature and to people has never been more important. I’ve watched our son connect to a Masai tribe in Tanzania and to a woman carrying a small goat in Peru. I’ve looked on as a beautiful lady served our son soda in Japan and admired our son’s gratitude in receiving it. 

I’ll never forget the time, high up in the Andes, a group of women grabbed him as he ran up the stairs to greet them at 12,000 feet altitude, and then nearly fainted in their arms as the lack of oxygen hit. They wrapped him in blankets and made him a cup of cocoa. 

It was extraordinary to see him give himself over to this tribe of mothers without a word of English being spoken. It takes a village, sure — but sometimes it also takes an Andean auntie with a flask and a good sense of humor.

Think outside the goldfish bowl

Fixed perspectives can suffocate potential and understanding but shopping at a busy weekly market, doing laundry at a local laundromat, or trying a food that might be considered a pet (side order of guinea pig anyone?), creates not just curiosity but also empathy. 

We’ve been to a cat park in Lima, Peru, and there was a shared sense of joy, peace and play with every human and creature in the area, and, in Madrid, a history-filled whole roast suckling pig dining, remains a family highlight.

In transit, we’ve had to visit a local eye doctor (Austria and Spain), a tailor for to fix a camera bag (Zimbabwe), and a local electronics shop to fix an iPad (Japan), which were all adventures of their own. 

And it’s not just kids who can learn. Camping is not my first choice of a vacation but when my son wanted to go, I rented an RV and it turns out, that for a few days, I can enjoy life in a mobile home. And yes, I brought half my house for a three-day camping trip. And yes, I used all of it. Don’t judge.

When the plan becomes cereal in bed

Life doesn’t always play out as it should and neither will your vacation. Things screw up, everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes things are less than the photo presented. We learned as a family how to research, leap, pivot and that sometimes it’s okay to go back to your room to sleep and wait to get out to the next place. 

On a walking trip through Japan, after a day that saw us hike at a high elevation for 7.5 miles, from Matsuzaki to Hiroshima, the three of us ended the day snuggled in our room, enjoying bowls of cereal in bed, instead of a group dinner. 

While exploring the Dolomites, a magical hiking day turned into a mad dash down the mountain when torrential rain clouds arrived with lightening. It felt like an episode of The Amazing Race to return to the tram to hitch a ride down before it closed for the day. Travel is chaos with a sense of direction, and learning to pivot is part of the package.

Adventures lead to smarter choices

Many people often have an unrealistic understanding of what’s safe and what’s risky but travel can teach us valuable lessons about making sound decisions and clearly navigating through life.

In Africa, when our son asked if he could stand and put his head out of the roof of our Jeep, our guide responded: “There are few rules out here in the Bush, so do what you want. I’ll tell you this however, the nearest doctor is six hours away and he is a shaman. The nearest doctor the way you are used to it is a plane ride away, so choose your actions carefully.” He sat down.

On a Japanese commuter train, we watched everyone clean up before they departed, and now we’re just as committed to always leaving our public areas just as tidy when leaving.

You can tell your kid to watch their phone until you’re blue in the face, but it may take being in a group when an adult is pickpocketed, such as happened to us in Spain, for them to take notice. 

Coming home with new eyes — and heated toilet seats

There’s a huge amount of joy in budgeting for a trip and anticipating the adventures that lay ahead – but mistakes happen. 

I once had to return a bunch of scarves to a Japanese museum gift shop because I’d wrongly calculated the exchange rate. And that’s fine because we also found joy in unexpected places; for example, we learned that the Japanese use heated toilet seats, and so my husband purchased one as a souvenir!

Returning home after traveling makes us fully appreciate the comfort and security of our everyday lives. These moments of gratitude, mixed with the excitement of our adventures, inspire us to value what we have and think about how we can protect and share these experiences for future generations.

From the peaks of Patagonia to the canyons of California, our journey continues. But the real treasures? Curiosity, resilience, empathy and an unshakable belief that cereal in bed sometimes beats fine dining.

Pack light. Laugh often. The world is waiting — with snacks.

Margot Black is a Los Angeles-based travel writer, mom and founder of Black Ink PR.

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For years, I dreamed of working from home, eschewing L.A. traffic and carving out more quality time with family. In 2020, that dream became a reality because of a nightmare: the pandemic. But even when much of the world went back to office work, my publishers made our remote status long-term. While I enjoy the ease of working from home as much as I had once envisioned, there are days I’d rather be anywhere else. Thankfully, coffeehouses aren’t the only option.

When construction chaos recently took over my house, I traded the incessant drilling and drywall dust for ocean breezes by booking a day of “resort working” at Santa Monica Proper Hotel’s rooftop via ResortPass.

My corner cabana — with just the right mix of sun and palm shade — became the perfect spot to edit, eat and enjoy vacation-like vibes. Whenever I looked up from my screen, I saw people lounging in the sparkling turquoise pool. This scene, backed by the Santa Monica mountain range and a wide swath of sky, helped open my creative vision in new ways.

No longer closed in by the walls of my home and the invasive sound of construction, I could breathe a little easier, soak up some vitamin D (after lathering on sunscreen) and hear and see other humans in real life! Before you remind me that the grass is always greener from the other side, I’m not ready to go back into an office full-time. Remote work really is my jam. But knowing that I can easily work from one of L.A. County’s beautiful hotels any time I need a break from home is refreshing.

Why ResortPass is a game-changer for remote workers
ResortPass lets you book luxe hotel amenities — such as cabanas, spas and pools — without an overnight stay, making it easy to turn any workday into a mini getaway. Day passes start at $25 and can increase depending on where you want to go and what kind of amenities you would like to access.

Booking is easy. On the ResortPass website, I entered my preferred location (Santa Monica) and date, clicked “all” for the amenities option, then browsed the list of participating hotels. The list included customer reviews, cost, icons symbolizing which amenities were available (pool, towel service, bar, food, etc.) and links to the hotels’ websites.

The pitch for a day at Santa Monica Proper Hotel let me know it was the choice for me: “Escape to a luxurious alcove at Santa Monica Proper Hotel for a day of pure relaxation. Savor the ocean breeze, enjoy personalized service and unwind by the rooftop pool with breathtaking views. Indulge in gourmet bites, sip refreshing cocktails and recharge in serene, stylish comfort. Treat yourself to an unforgettable day of bliss and tranquility.”

On the day of my poolside workday, I made sure I had chargers for my phone and laptop, a notebook, my reusable water bottle, sunscreen and trail mix. Located at 700 Wilshire Blvd., Santa Monica Proper Hotel is walking distance from the beach. Designed with coastal flair and natural tones, it is branded as a hotel with a “looser kind of luxury.” I easily found metered parking around the hotel, but since it was a workday, I decided to valet park, which was $40.

After I checked in at the front desk, staff directed me to the elevators leading to the rooftop. I sighed with pleasure when I saw my alcove — a corner with a lush couch that curved around a wooden table. Blessed with a sunny day, I was thankful the cabana was tucked under a squat palm tree with fronds that fanned over my workstation.

From Calabra, the hotel’s rooftop hotel that serves up Mediterranean and California cuisine, I treated myself to an oat milk cappuccino, truffle fries and the fattoush salad crowned with large falafels that burst with aromatic spices and boasted a crips golden-brown shell and a tender, flavorful center.

How to book your own work daycation
Booking through ResortPass is seamless — just select your date, choose your cabana and get ready to work in style. Even though you’re working, you’ll feel like you’re on vacation — especially if you take your break in the pool.

Cassandra Lane is Editor-in-Chief of L.A. Parent.

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As many new parents know, those early days and months with your baby can be filled with exhaustion, sadness, frustration and even rage, as much as it can be filled with joy and love. Playwright, comedy writer, performer and educator Jessica Mele decided to put those emotions into her work as an artist to create her one woman show, “Eat the Mama,” which will have its L.A. debut at the Hollywood Fringe Festival in June.

We got the chance to ask Jessica more about her show, navigating life as an artist and parent and where she likes to go around her Santa Clarita neighborhood and in L.A.

Congratulations on your show, “Eat the Mama,” and its L.A. premiere. Please tell us a little about the inspiration behind it and your writing process.

“Eat the Mama” began with my time as a new mother, writing furiously in tear-stained journals at 3 a.m. I’ve always been an emotional journal writer and those early motherhood days were pure emotion. Everything went in those journals – fights with my husband about cleaning bottles; feeling like a dairy cow, strapped to my breast pump; power struggles with my child as he grew and learned to say “no.” I wrote them down and then put those feelings away and never looked at them again.

Then, in 2021 we were spending a lot of time indoors due to the pandemic, and I felt a desperate need to do something creative. I enrolled in a “Write your own 10-Minute Solo Show” zoom workshop, and thumbed through those journals looking for material. I had enough distance from the pain and anger of the early years to write about those emotions. Then, I worked with a writing coach (playwright Megan Cohen, who is terrific) to turn that into a full-length show, which was a process of developing new material and collaging it together. 

I think I just wanted to be seen. I spent so much of early motherhood feeling unseen as the mother that I was, which felt so far away from my idealized version of a “mother.” I was not gentle, patient or calm. I was an anger bomb a lot of the time.

What do you wish other moms who are also playwrights, performers or artists knew about navigating both the artist life and parent life?

They already know how hard it is, and how necessary it is to maintain a creative practice. I can only speak from my own experience: I am happiest – and a better parent – when I have a creative outlet, which for me requires being seen. But it has been hard to accept that my capacity and energy for making art is different than it was before I became a parent. I need to remind myself that whatever “art thing” I’m doing, it’s enough – as long as I’m sharing it with someone. So, I just have to do the next art thing, and the next, and the next. Whatever that is, whatever scale or scope. Right now, my next art thing is “Eat the Mama” at Hollywood Fringe. And that’s enough. If you have ideas about the art thing after that, I’m taking suggestions!

Did you have a mentor growing up? And what role did that person play in your life and your career?

My mom (now retired) was an early childhood educator and a dancer and storyteller. Her creativity was woven into who she was as a person, and who she was professionally. She nurtured a playful, creative home for me and my brother. And she always took our artmaking seriously. She loved and supported us no matter what – “Even if you wanted to be an elephant trainer when you grow up!” She told me that once, when I was in high school. And she meant it! (BTW – my brother is the set designer for “Eat the Mama.” That’s a whole other level of joy, getting to make art with my sibling.)

I have struggled with many things as a parent and an artist – how to make money and art, how to keep my creativity alive when I’m hustling to work, how to love myself when my version of motherhood is so different from what I thought it would be. But I have always felt loved and supported by my mom just as I am, as an artist, as a parent and as a person.

You were living in the Bay Area prior to moving to Santa Clarita. How was that transition as a mom and as a family?

What a big move! I cried and journaled and cried and journaled. We went from living in a city to suburbia; from two bedrooms to three; from not knowing our neighbors to having the neighborhood kids making art in our garage after school. Our child started second grade at a school three times as big as his old one! Honestly, he made friends faster than we did. Everyone in our neighborhood knew him by name within the first month. My husband and I are still finding our grown-up people here, and we miss living closer to the ocean. But being in Santa Clarita has given us the chance to own a home for the first time, a school within walking distance, and plenty of hiking trails. It’s opened up a whole new social world for our child, and that has been beautiful to watch.

When not working, where will we find you?

Lately, I’ve been networking at Hollywood Fringe Festival events. I love how the festival really builds a community among its eclectic list of artists. There will be 400 shows at the festival this year! My current promotional packet involves space candy inside Medela breast milk bags with “Eat the Mama” stickers. When I meet a person who recognizes those bags, I know I’ve found my audience. I want more people to see this play!

What are some of your favorite spots and activities in and around L.A. and Santa Clarita?

Santa Clarita: Toppers Pizza in Valencia, CA is a family favorite. Family bike rides along the paseos in Santa Clarita – we saw a bobcat in the riverbed behind our house! The Loaf Japanese bakery in Newhall, CA. I’m a pastry junkie!

L.A.: Little Tokyo (I work virtually, but the organization I work for – the Center for Cultural Innovation) has an office there and I love browsing the shops and eats.

WGA Library for a nice quiet place to work in L.A. You don’t have to be a member to use the library, but they are not joking when they say that they will not let you in without an appointment.

Little Green Art Studio (now in Frogtown): I took a holiday wreath making workshop here and it was such a calm, joyful, creative experience. 

Mercado La Paloma food court: a food court with a Michelin-starred restaurant? Who could ask for more? Casual and so, so delicious. 

“Eat the Mama” performs June 6, 20, 21, 22 and 27 at The Hudson Theatres, 6539 Santa Monica Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 9038

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Cautiously, I cracked open my daughter’s bedroom door.

“Hey, Ma,” Lina said as she stuffed her clothes — sweaters, tight jeans and size two skirts — into the largest suitcases we owned.

“Hello, beautiful daughter of mine,” I said. My eyes were watery, but I was not crying. Not yet.

Lina grabbed an armload of scarves she’d knitted and some bulky sweaters and hats she would wear while walking briskly in the New York air with her boyfriend, Lawrence. I stood in her bedroom doorway in our Los Angeles home, trying to imagine her clear, high-pitched laugh — the sound of a young woman in love — ringing throughout streets on the other side of the country. Her sweaters and scarves, along with her socks and underwear and mittens, would transfer to a dresser drawer in her boyfriend’s apartment in Brooklyn. There, she would nurture dreams of marrying him, her high school sweetheart.

But what about me? The single mother who’d raised, washed and kept her for 18 years, then a few more after college. I wanted to whine: Why do you have to move there? Can’t you just visit? It’s going to be expensive and hard. What if you guys break up?

But I didn’t say any of this.

“You gonna leave me one of those?” I smirked, nodding at the scarves.

She sniffed the thick yellow one, shrugged and tossed it to me: “Here you go.”

She’s really moving out this time, I thought. My best friend was really leaving me for good — not just going away to college. An involuntary whimper caught in my throat, loosening the pain plastered against my ribs. To lighten the moment, I told a lame joke. And then, pressing down any other sounds that could be construed as sorrow, I backed out of her room to let her return to the work of drawing a clean line between mother and daughter, between parent and child, between childhood and womanhood. She was pulling herself from my woven tapestry in order to make her own. I could hear her spinning it as she hummed.

I closed the door and made my way to my own room. But what about me? This question continued to echo in my mind even as I showered and got ready for bed.

How many parents secretly nurse this question even as they contemplate what should be done with the vacant room in their house? I slept curled in an anxious ball for days. When my daughter’s room was empty and she was gone, a hole the size of the moon ballooned in my chest.

What I would have given to be rocked like a child myself in those difficult and lonely moments! While most parents will feel this sense of loss when their child leaves home, making sure to nurture yourself and your own dreams and interests while your kids are still young will make their leaving much less painful.

What makes you feel good?

Parents, especially mothers, spend nearly every waking moment giving their time, attention, money and energy to their children, their spouses, neighbors and aging parents. Despite our social strides and gains, even women in marriages still disproportionately do the majority of the housework, caregiving and financial planning in their households.

That was my life until recently.

Wandering aimlessly around Lina’s room, my sadness bloomed. In a second marriage on its last legs, recently appointed interim chair of my department and now, with the rites of passage that nearly every parent experiences — the child leaving home — it was time for me to learn to look after numero uno.

Since my then-husband refused to go to therapy anymore, I decided to go alone. I had to find someone who could listen without judgment and without any expectation other than to help me process the tornado of emotions I was experiencing all at once.

“What makes you feel good?” my therapist asked, leaning back in her squeaky chair at the end of our third session and my verbal outpouring.

I blinked. When was the last time someone had asked me this? A year? Two? My daughter was living her life in New York and my unresponsive husband felt like a 300-pound weight around my neck. My hectic job was my only refuge, which was to say, it wasn’t really a refuge at all.

When I got home that evening, I made a list:

1. Walk at the beach three to five times a week.

2. Finish reading a book a month.

3. Dance and laugh anytime I want.

4. Get a massage once a month.

5. Spend time with friends and family.

6. Research getting a divorce.

Movement. Stimulation. Touch. Embracing a notion of liberation over emptiness. These were my medicines. My only child had finally flown the coop, and after six years of doing thankless work in the marriage, I refused to continue parenting my grown, unambitious husband.

Many women continue to absorb a long-outdated societal message that we must look after our partners at the expense of ourselves, as if we can’t feel good about an action or an accomplishment until said partner feels good first. Similarly, we’ve learned to “mother” even those who aren’t our children — our friends, adult family members, siblings, our students, co-workers and even our parents as they age. But who is seeing after us?

Yes, we sometimes receive our “thank you’s” and flowers on Mother’s Day and birthdays, but some real appreciation for our unpaid labor is long overdue.

Putting self-care language into gear

Thanks to social media, we’ve entered into a new era of self-care language, yet in action, why is it still so hard for us to remember these practices while nurturing others? Our lives have gotten even busier, technology has made our children secretive and rebellious and the political climate in our country is traumatizing us in ripples.

As a professor, writer, mother, grandmother and now caregiver for my elderly parents, I’ve learned that it’s up to me — us — to balance our natural inclination to mother others with our own needs and desires. And you don’t have to wait until your nest is empty! Your children will benefit from witnessing you prioritize you — at least some of the time.

After my divorce and adjustment to a childless home, every few months I follow the advice of my therapist and ask myself, “What makes me feel good?” Then, I return to my list and revise it when necessary. Movement, stimulation, touch, friendship, peace of mind and reciprocal companionships are always at the top of my list.

So, take a moment to sit down and listen to yourself — your innermost self — as you devise your special list. One thing that I always forget to put on mine is, “Ask for help.” I believe that as we ask for more help, our children, friends, partners and extended community will rise to meet our needs.

Because here’s the truth: We can’t pour from an empty cup. In a world that constantly pulls us in every direction, learning to parent yourself isn’t just self-care; it’s survival.

Author of “The Lost Songs of Nina Simone” and “Black Indian,” Shonda Buchanan is also an associate professor of English, creative writing and professional development at Western Michigan University and fiction faculty in Alma College’s MFA program in creative writing. Visit shondabuchanan.com.

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Summer is nearly here — have you planned your family’s getaway? Experience Oxnard, the perfect beach town where OX Marks the Spot for your budget-friendly escape with beautiful beaches and immaculate SoCal vibes.

Best Oxnard Beaches

Nestled a beat past Los Angeles up Highway 101 lies Oxnard, equal parts vibrant and laid back. The city offers seven miles of uncrowded beaches, waterfront dining, and tons of budget-friendly fun for everyone.

Silver Strand Beach is a local favorite for good reason. This mile-long stretch is tucked between the Port Hueneme Naval Base and the Channel Islands Harbor, making it a prime spot for surfing, sunbathing, kayaking or fishing! 

Did you know Oxnard is home to Hollywood Beach? Well, it is! Legends like Clark Gable and Rudolph Valentino were known to hang out in the area and add to this beach’s historic charm. Now open to the public, it’s perfect for days of sun and surf.

‘Rocks’nard – For the Music Lovers

Yep, you heard that right! Oxnard strikes the right chord with its music scene. While you’re hear, kick back and enjoy the sounds of summer.

Start with the Heritage Square Summer Concert Series in historic downtown Oxnard. Bring a blanket, a picnic and catch live R&B, Latin jazz and classic rock under the stars. Then catch the summer Concerts by the Sea on Saturdays and The Collection at Riverpark on Thursday nights for live sets by the shore. 

Throughout the year, Oxnard keeps the party going with the Jazz Festival, California Strawberry Festival and Salsa Festival.

Free and Affordable Oxnard Activities

Drums Tour: DW Drums’ world headquarters opens its doors to give visitors a peek into crafting their renowned drums. The tour even includes a quick tuning lesson. Call (805) 485-6999, ext. 450, to secure a spot before your visit.

Channel Island Kayak Wildlife Tour: Explore the Channel Islands Harbor by kayak, meet “Chippy” the life-sized pygmy mammoth and keep an eye out for sea lions, starfish and pirate treasure!

Channel Islands Maritime Museum: Collections of maritime paintings, ship models and artifacts, including one of the largest ship models made of bones, await museum visitors. Admission is free for kids under 18.

Classic Car Shows: Cruise into nostalgia with Downtown Oxnard’s Summer Car Show and Cruise Nights on second Fridays from May through July.

Best Eats in Oxnard

 The Strandwich: The perfect spot to grab a bite by the beach, surrounded by “Nardcore” punk memorabilia.

Cafe Dolce Vita: If you need coffee before you can have thoughts, try this cafe in Downtown Oxnard. Get your coffee fix and a sandwich or a macaroon! Who says a SoCal beach vacation can’t have international vibes??

Fisherman’s Catch: Fisherman’s Catch is the best place to get coconut shrimp, calamari, lobster and more — all caught daily and at prices that make the food taste that much better.

The Annex Food Hall: The ultimate “something-for-everyone” dining destination, with 13 food vendors and shops nearby!

Honeycup Coffeehouse & Creamery: Coffee, smoothies and ice cream, oh my! At Honeycup, you can have it all, including ice cream handmade by a master chef!

Where to Stay

Whether you’re planning a laid-back beach weekend or a luxury escape with the whole crew, Oxnard has just the place to rest your sandy feet.

Zachari Dunes on Mandalay Beach was named the No. 1 Best New Hotel in the U.S. by USA Today’s 2024 10 Best Reader’s Choice Awards. This all-suite beachfront resort rivals spots like Terranea in Palos Verdes and the Ritz Carlton Bacara in Santa Barbara. If you want luxury with kid-friendly amenities, more room to breathe and less of the price tag, Zachari Dunes delivers. It’s where oceanfront elegance meets relaxed family fun.

Hampton Inn Channel Islands Harbor brings the waterfront vibes. It sits on the scenic boardwalk, between the beloved Toppers Pizza and Peninsula Park (home of the Concerts by the Sea series). With two easily accessible public docks just steps away, it’s a breeze to launch a kayak or paddleboard and enjoy a fun, family-friendly day out on the water.

For the sporty family, Staybridge Suites features Dallas Cowboys Training Camp memorabilia in the lobby and gives fans of America’s Team something to brag about. River Ridge Golf Club is conveniently next door.

Prefer something with homier comfort? Homewood Suites is perfect for longer stays with apartment-style living, basketball courts, BBQ grills and freeway convenience.

Book Your Stay in Oxnard Today!

Angelenos looking to escape the heat and crowded beaches will find cool ocean breezes and laid-back vibes right up the coast. Why shell out more elsewhere when you can soak up the sun for less in Oxnard? Plan your stay at https://visitoxnard.com. Then pack your sunscreen, grab the kids and get ready to discover where OX Marks the Spoton a memorable family vacation.

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As moms, juggling work, kids, family obligations, we could all use some holistic wellness. Melissa Coulier and Melanie Samuels started Live Well Lead Well to focus on empowering female leaders through health and mindfulness. Drawing from their personal journeys—overcoming chronic illness and disordered eating—they want to bring functional movement, bio-individual nutrition and mindfulness to more women. 

Tell us a little about the motivation behind your company, Live Well Lead Well.

Live Well Lead Well started from our own personal health struggles, but it quickly became something much bigger. Initially, we focused on helping women lower inflammation and reclaim their health through nutrition. But as we worked with more clients, we saw a pattern—most were busy, high-achieving women in leadership roles, struggling with extreme stress and burnout.

These women weren’t just looking to feel better—they needed sustainable ways to build stress resilience, maintain their energy and show up powerfully in their roles. That’s when we pivoted, creating a holistic approach that combines bio-individual nutrition, movement and mindset to help them thrive instead of running on empty.

We don’t believe in one-size-fits-all solutions. We believe in fueling and moving our bodies in ways that honor our individual needs, so we can lead well in every aspect of life—whether that’s running a business, leading a team or simply showing up as the best version of ourselves for our families.

Tell us a little about your own personal wellness journey and challenges you have had to face.

Melissa: I was diagnosed with Lupus, and for years, I masked my pain with medications and hospital visits. I was doing everything I thought was “right,” but my body was still fighting me. It wasn’t until I started working with Melanie, who had become a holistic nutritionist, that I realized I needed to approach my health differently. By using food as medicine, following bio-individual nutrition, and embracing the 80/20 framework—focusing on ingredients instead of calories—I was able to ditch all medication and heal. That experience changed my life and led me to this work. 

Melanie: My journey started with disordered eating as a teen. I was focused on numbers and caught in the cycle of restriction and over-exercising. Studying holistic nutrition helped me unlearn toxic diet culture and rebuild a healthier relationship with food and movement. Now, I help other women break free from that cycle and find ways to support their bodies instead of fighting against them.

Our experiences made us realize that wellness isn’t just about looking healthy—it’s about feeling strong, resilient and at peace in your own body.

How can working moms in particular benefit from a holistic approach to health?

Working moms wear so many hats – whether you’re managing a household full-time, working in an office, or juggling remote work while parenting, the expectations can feel endless. This constant pressure often leads to overextension, making it easy to put your well-being on the back burner. But here’s the truth: To show up fully in every area of your life, you must take care of yourself in a way that is sustainable and fulfilling. 

One of the biggest ways working moms overextend themselves is by trying to check the “health” box the way society has conditioned us to, by over-exercising, chasing fad diets or following rigid health trends that just don’t work long-term. This often leads to burnout, not balance. A holistic approach to health offers something better: flexibility, sustainability and joy!

So, what does that actually look like?

• Nourishing your body in a way that works for you and your family. Prioritizing home-cooked meals made with real, satisfying foods that fuel your energy instead of adding stress. While takeout can be a convenient option during busy weeks, make it an occasional treat rather than a go-to. This allows you to be more intentional about what you’re eating. Plus, the act of cooking at home not only nourishes your body but also strengthens your connection with your family, turning mealtime into a moment of care and togetherness rather than just another task to check off before the bedtime routines begin. 

• Moving your body in a way that fits your lifestyle. This doesn’t have to mean long gym sessions. Think functional movement throughout the day, like stretching at your desk, taking walking meetings or even dancing in your kitchen with your kids.

• Living with intention and using mindset as a tool for well-being. This means disconnecting from stress while eating at work (hello, recharge time!), listening to your body’s cues for movement or rest, and carving out space to journal, brain dump, or create manageable to-do lists to lighten your mental load.

When you approach health holistically, it becomes something that works with your life, not another thing you need to squeeze in.

How do you incorporate wellness into your everyday life?

We truly practice what we preach by integrating wellness into our daily lives through three pillars: nutrition, movement and mindset. We keep it simple to make it sustainable. For nutrition, we focus on our bio-individual needs, choosing foods that not only bring us joy but also nourish our bodies. When it comes to movement, we choose exercises that we genuinely enjoy and crave, fitting them into our busy lifestyles. Sometimes, that means turning on a favorite playlist and dancing it out in the kitchen! We believe fresh air is essential, no matter the weather, so we make a point to get outside whenever possible for a mental boost and vitamin D. We prioritize sleep when we can and surround ourselves with relationships that uplift and support us. It’s all about creating balance that feels good for us, both physically and mentally.

What is functional movement and how does it benefit us?

Functional movement is training your body for real life—not just for the gym. It focuses on movements that mimic daily activities, making everyday tasks easier and helping you stay strong, mobile, and injury-free as you age.

Think about it: Every time you squat to pick up a toy, lift your child, carry a car seat, haul groceries, or even lug your work bag through the airport, you’re using essential muscles. Functional movement trains these muscles to work together, so you can move with ease, confidence and less strain—whether you’re wrangling kids or powering through a long workday.

And it doesn’t have to be boring! Take a walking meeting instead of sitting at your desk. When at home, dance with your kids, play freeze tag or race them to the car. These are all great ways to incorporate movement. Plus, when your kids see you moving daily, they grow up understanding that movement is a natural, joyful part of life—not just something you “have to do” at the gym.

In our practice, we blend functional strength with cardio for heart health and encourage movement snacks, bite-sized bursts of movement throughout the day that train your body to crave movement instead of dreading it. These small moments add up, boosting energy, strength, and overall well-being.

Because let’s be real—your kids aren’t slowing down, and neither are you.

What does mindfulness look like for you?

Mindfulness isn’t just about meditation—it’s about doing everyday tasks with intention. It’s about shifting your mindset in small but powerful ways.

• Making a meal? Do it with love and care instead of stress and resentment.

• Moving your body? Pay attention to your muscle engagement and celebrate what your body can do.

• Feeling overwhelmed? Take a deep breath and center yourself before reacting.

When we approach life with presence and intention, everything shifts. It’s not about adding more to your plate—it’s about shifting how you move through your day.

At the core of it all, we want people to realize that health isn’t about extremes—it’s about balance, consistency, and self-awareness. When we take care of ourselves in ways that feel good and sustainable, we show up stronger, not just for ourselves, but for the people who rely on us.

What does healthy eating look like for you?

To us, healthy eating is all about balance, which is why we follow an 80/20 lifestyle. This means that most of time, we’re nourishing our bodies with real, whole foods made in our kitchens, while also allowing room for indulgences that bring us joy. The key? Both aspects, nutrient-dense meals and occasional treats, should feel good and be part of a sustainable, enjoyable way of eating.

A big part of this is listening to our bodies. Tuning into hunger cues and eating when we’re truly hungry (instead of following external rules or ignoring what our bodies need) allows us to stay in balance naturally. It’s about fueling ourselves with foods that keep us energized and satisfied, rather than constantly overthinking food choices.

For us, this looks like variety. In our everyday meals, we love breakfasts like overnight oats, coconut yogurt bowls, pasture-raised eggs, uncured bacon, and avocado toast on sourdough. Lunches often include turkey wraps, big colorful salads, or nourishing bowls. Dinners are full of flavor – pasta, tacos, curries, or dishes made with chicken, salmon, turkey, or grass-fed beef paired with rice and lots of roasted veggies. And yes, we love dessert! Whether it’s homemade cookies or some dark chocolate after dinner, we make choices that satisfy while also making our bodies feel their best. But being intentional is key. We opt for small swaps that make a big difference, like using brown rice pasta instead of wheat, choosing high-quality dairy like 100% grass-fed cheese and butter, or swapping refined sugar for coconut sugar or maple syrup. But healthy eating isn’t about restriction, it’s about finding what works for you.

And when we do dine out or enjoy takeout, we fully embrace the experience. We eat with a positive mindset, knowing that one meal doesn’t define our overall health. No guilt, no overcompensating, just moving on at the next meal with foods that help us feel great. Because at the end of the day, healthy eating shouldn’t be what you’re “trying” to do, it’s just what you do.

Please share some wellness tips for L.A. moms, dealing with careers, navigating the pressure to be a “perfect” mom and everyday stressors like our crazy traffic. 

The key to thriving in all of these roles lies in shifting from striving for perfection to living with intention. Here’s our advice on how you can find balance, reduce stress, and feel even more empowered wearing all of these different hats:

• Let go of perfection, embrace intention. The pressure to be the “perfect” mom can be heavy, but the truth is, perfection doesn’t exist. Instead, focus on being intentional with your choices. You make decisions all day, so how can you bring more thoughtfulness to them? Whether it’s what you eat, how you move, or how you manage your time, aim to make choices that nourish and support you – not deplete you. When you feel your best, you show up as your best self in every role you play.

• Fuel your body, don’t deprive it. Moms often put everyone else’s needs first (guilty!), leaving little time to take care of themselves. But to thrive in a busy schedule, it’s essential to fuel your body with whole, real foods. Eating enough variety (quality protein, healthy fats, nourishing carbohydrates) will give you the energy to take on the demands of your career and your kids’ homework, soccer, and dance schedules. Remember, what you put in your body matters just as much as what you’re feeding your kids!

• Move in a way that supports your lifestyle. Exercise doesn’t have to be a HIIT class every morning at 6 a.m.. Find movement that fits seamlessly into your lifestyle. Whether it’s taking a power walk instead of a coffee break, or doing quick stretches in the morning before your kids wake up, aim for consistency over perfection. Your body will thank you for staying active in a way that feels good and doesn’t stretch you beyond your limits.

• Manage stress and set boundaries. L.A. traffic and preschool germs are inevitable, but how you manage stress is key. As moms, we need to say “yes” to everything – but doing so can quickly lead to burnout. Practice setting boundaries to protect your well-being. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a moment to pause and assess if a request aligns with your priorities and energy levels. If it drains you, it’s ok to say no! A great way to manage stress in the moment of chaos (like when you’re stuck on the 405) is breathwork. 

• Try the “5-5-5 breath”:

1. Inhale for 5 seconds through your nose.
2. Hold your breath for 5 seconds.
3. Slowly exhale for 5 seconds through your mouth.
4. Repeat this a few times, and you’ll activate your body’s relaxation response, helping to calm your nervous system.

• Use the “Pause Before Yes” Rule. Often, the demands of balancing motherhood and career come at us fast. A great grounding practice is the “Pause Before Yes” rule. Before committing to anything, take a moment to ask yourself: “Does this align with my priorities?” or “Will it add to my energy or drain it?”
If it’s the latter, it might be time to say no or pass it onto someone else. This simple pause can help you stay in control of your energy and create space for what truly matters.

Know that you are already an amazing mom. Here’s the good news: feeling the pressure to be the “perfect” mom is a sign that you deeply care about your family. The guilt you feel? It’s a reflection of your dedication. Remember, mothers who want to be better are already doing an amazing job. So take care of yourself the same way you take care of your kids – you deserve that love and attention, too.

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Years after watching the television series “Grey’s Anatomy,” I can still recall how mesmerized I was with Sarah Drew’s performance as Dr. April Kepner. Since working nine seasons on the hit ABC series, Drew has continued to act, as well as write, direct and produce. 

But when I met Drew in person, I knew instantly that being a mom is her greatest gig. Her home, where we did our cover photo shoot, is filled with family photos and her kids’ artwork and projects. Holiday photos formed a collaged halo around the living room fireplace. Drew pointed to the montage and the twinkling lights draping the mantel and laughed. “I leave this up until April. It makes me so happy.”

We met with Drew in late January, a few weeks after the devasting fires that tore through vast swaths of Los Angeles County. Our chat spanned everything from evacuation orders to her career and parenting.   

I want to begin with the fires that took over our city. The Eaton fire was close to you. Tell us a little about that night.

It was a very stressful night [that] Tuesday night. We lost power; the wind was howling and rattling the windows. We got the kids to bed and realized that our cell service had become super spotty, so downloading and keeping track of the Watch Duty app was nearly impossible. We felt a bit blind with where we were. I was glad I couldn’t sleep because a friend from Altadena texted me at 12:30, having just evacuated with no place to go, so she came to us. We woke up the next morning to discover that the Eaton fire had come dangerously close to us. We were on the edge of the evacuation line. The sky in the back of our house was clear and blue and the sky in front of our house looked like the apocalypse. It was very scary. We woke the kids up and packed up both of our cars, so we’d be ready to go. We all cried, the kids painfully choosing between stuffies.

How did you explain everything to your kids? 

 We talk about everything with the kids, so we told them the truth. We said we were pretty sure our house would be OK, but we needed to pack up all the things that mattered the most to us into the cars just in case. They were very emotional but committed to the task at hand. 

We have seen such heartwarming stories of community members helping each other. What does community mean to you as a mom, an actor and a resident of our city that has endured so much in the past couple of months?

Community is everything to me. I think we realize how important it is in a tragedy like this. I was on multiple text threads, one of which is a group of women I’m honored to call friends. We all live scattered around town, so that thread was the first to blow up with everyone checking in on each other. This sweet group has rallied to meet the specific and tangible needs of friends and friends of friends. Going to our kids’ school the Friday after the fire started and connecting with the community there was life giving and beautiful. Going to church that Sunday was as well. We had a couple from church stay with us while waiting for an apartment to open up, and just being together has been so beautiful. So many small and large blessings pouring out around this town. It really is a city of angels. 

Tell us a little about your childhood. Did you love performing from a young age? 

I was an extremely lonely kid. I was bullied and had very few friends all the way until I started at a new school in 8th grade. I found great refuge in performing. There was (still is) something beautiful about wearing someone else’s life — knowing how that story will end. Acting and performing was a safe place to feel my very big feelings — and to be celebrated instead of rejected for feeling those feelings. My family was always a safe haven for me as well, and I certainly would not have been able to cultivate my love of the arts were it not for the unwavering support of my parents. As a teen, I was incredibly hard working, disciplined and passionate. I was singularly focused. I wanted to make a living as an actor. That desire was what fed everything I did. That and being extremely committed to my faith. 

What would you tell your middle school self?

It gets so much better, I swear. This is the tiniest blip in the story of your life, and every pain you feel will make you strong and resilient and empathetic to those you meet along the way who feel as lonely as you do now. This is your superpower. You’ve got this. 

Dr. April Kepner was one of our favorite characters on “Grey’s Anatomy.” Tell us about getting that part and your experience on the hit show. 

I was offered the role of April without auditioning. I had just done a pilot for Shonda Rhimes that hadn’t gotten picked up, so they knew me well. April was only supposed to be there for two episodes. I was there to get fired at the end of my second episode, but the morning after my firing episode aired, I was asked to come back with the knowledge that it might become a series-regular position. I spent the rest of season 6 basically auditioning with every episode, hoping I’d have the chance to show them what I could do. The rest is history. April was a very different character at the beginning. She was written to be kind of grating and, as many fans commented, annoying. But, as time went on, I had the chance to make her my own, and the writers evolved her into someone strong and resilient and passionate and good. It was a joy to take her journey, and I’m grateful every day that I had those nine years to tell her story.

Many of our readers have kids who are interested in the entertainment industry. What advice do you have for parents and kids navigating this unique field?

Honestly, I would tell them all to hold off doing anything professionally until after college. I’ve just seen it go so wrong so many times, and sets are just not a good place for kids. I would encourage them to do what I did, which was to do as much school and community theater as possible. Get all the experience you can and allow it to be fun and to be playful. As soon as a kid is on set, there’s a stressful clock on them, and it doesn’t matter how they feel or if they need a nap — they need to do their work. It’s a lot of pressure for a kid, and I think it can kill some of the joy of the play of storytelling. I’m committed as a professional adult in this industry to keep playing every day I’m on set. No story sings without play being at the heart of it, in my opinion. But it can be hard work to remember to do that, work that a kid shouldn’t have to do. I say all that knowing full well that I’ve written kids into scripts, and we need kids to tell all the stories, but if it were my kid, I’d tell them to hold off. 

What current projects are you most excited about?

My show “Mistletoe Murders,” which I star in and executive produce, is streaming on Hallmark+, and I’m so very proud of this show. It was a joyous experience to shoot, and it’s been so much fun seeing how much the audience has loved it. We are currently waiting for an official announcement for a season 2. 

Tell us a little about your kids. What are some of your favorite activities to do together?

My son Micah (13) is as singularly focused on filmmaking and editing as I was on acting. He makes short films and teaches himself how to create special effects by watching YouTube tutorials. We’ll all be working for him one day. He’s also just gotten into Dungeons & Dragons and is creating an epic adventure that he’s writing himself for his birthday gathering. His birthdays are always a massive production in the absolute best way. 

Hannah (10) is really into musical theater. She’s currently in two productions where she’s playing the lead in both. She’s always singing around the house (so is Micah, who also does musical theater) or dancing. She also loves to paint and draw. We love playing games together. Scattegories and Ransom Notes are among our favorites. All four of us are always involved in Micah’s short films, so that’s definitely a family affair. 

How has parenthood changed you?

Fundamentally, it forced me to quit living just for myself. That can become exhausting at times, especially when the kids and their needs can be so overwhelming. But I also never really understood or was prepared for the friendship aspect of parenthood. Now that the kids are older, we have the best conversations, the most epic laughing fits and the biggest sob fests together. My love for them and the way their existence tethers me to [my husband] Peter even more than I was before is so epic.

[Parenting] is joyous and can also feel crushing, especially when they’re hurting or struggling. They keep me on my toes, and they force me to love in ways that are hard and beautiful and so challenging. They’re also able to cut me to the quick and expose the parts of myself that I know I need to change. 

We are committed to repair after rupture in our family, which means that we don’t let the sun go down on our anger. Being in the practice of self-reflection so that I, too, take responsibility when I need to has really expanded my heart. I’m fundamentally changed because I’m a parent and I’m so grateful for that.

Best pieces of life and parenting advice you have received?

Leading up to our marriage, a mentor advised us to eliminate sarcasm from our relationship. It can so easily go from fun and games to deep, cutting pain that is unleashed when resentment builds up. Keeping sarcasm in check has really trained us to approach each other with kindness always. We truly never try to wound each other, even when angry. Best parenting advice: We’re all gonna do it differently, and we need to trust our gut. 

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As a writer and artist who has been on a conscious health and wellness journey for several years now, I am often on the intentional hunt for restorative vacation adventures. I recently launched a wellness company, Being Loud Sis, whose mission is to center and uplift busy and overextended women, mothers and multi-hyphenate professionals.

At Being Loud Sis, the question we like to ask is: “How can we prioritize our being in a doing-focused culture, one that tends to put the emphasis on what we have accomplished versus how we are taking care of ourselves?” Pondering my own responses to this question, it was such a joy to spend a few days reminding myself “how to be still” at the Hacienda Encantada Resort & Residences in Cabo San Lucas.

It’s a family affair

There is something beyond the tangible for places that “feel like home,” and that indescribable something is exactly what I noticed when I arrived at Hacienda Encantada Resort & Residencies, which is part of Mexico Grand Hotels.

Perched atop a scenic cliff, the family-owned, all-inclusive optional resort offers breathtaking panoramic views of the nearby Pacific Ocean and Sea of Cortez. Yet despite its expansiveness, the “homey” atmosphere is a nod to the Macias family, who owns and manages it.

Gabriel Ibarra Macias, a member of the family, gave my travel group a beautiful tour of the resort and the residences, which are available for anyone looking to book longer or recurring stays. Macias’ mother handles the interior design for the resort, which he humbly revealed as my traveling compadres and I raved about every tapestry, fixture and piece of furniture we encountered. We were struck by how well each lantern, each tile and piece of art — locally sourced from nearby towns such as Tlaquepaque and Tonalá — and each hand-carved fountain encouraged us to pause for a moment and consider its unique beauty.

My suite, featuring ornate furniture with personal touches, beautiful tapestries and transfixing beach views, conjured up the timeless beauty of Mexico.

The only thing that kept me from lounging in my room all day was knowing the adventure that awaited me the moment I stepped outside.

Nourishing mind, body and soul

During our stay, we visited Milagro Wellness Spa, which has a gorgeous pool of its own and offers an impressive variety of signature treatments. I luxuriated in the pool and enjoyed some hydrotherapy before indulging in a relaxing massage.

After the spa, I grabbed some lunch while writing and answering work emails in the spa café. Here’s a Being Loud Sis pro tip: Whether it’s at home or on a “work-cation,” finding relaxing and scenic places to do your work can bring a lighter and more refreshing energy to your work. But ideally, put your work down as often as possible and remember to go and play!

Culinary delights

When it was time to dine, oh did we dine! From our amazing cliffside family-style grill dinner at Los Riscos Mesquite Bar & Grill (I can still taste the grilled veggies that accompanied the surf & turf) to the pizzas at La Pergola, the authentic Mexican flavors of Los Deseos at the nearby sister Marina Fiesta resort and even the smoothies and snacks at the Fresco spa café, every meal we tried at the resort was uniquely curated, colorful, delicious and served with a smile.

A signature Hacienda Encantada wellness experience

As a seeker who is actively searching for new ways to relieve stress (and to understand myself more deeply), I want to highlight a unique experience that makes me excited to return to Hacienda Encantada: the Temazcal Wellness Experience. It’s a Mayan practice guided by a temazcalero, or shaman, who leads guests through the power of the four elements — earth, air, fire and water — to purify mind, body and spirit.

As described by Macias, “the temazcalero uses music, steam and herbs to transport guests through a sensory and visceral experience. Participants emerge feeling inspired and transformed.”

A tale of two seas: Lover’s Beach and Divorce Beach

One of the highlights of our stay at the resort was spending the afternoon out on a beautiful yacht on the sun-kissed Sea of Cortez. We ate fruit, sipped cocktails and learned about “Lover’s Beach,” the local nickname for the beach and rock formations resting in the calm waters of the Sea of Cortez, and nearby “Divorce Beach,” named for where the water gets turbulent and choppy as the sea and the Pacific Ocean intersect!

As our crew warned us, and the yacht started to rock, it was unmistakable where the two bodies of water intertwined. I’m sure some of the relationship coaches and therapists that we consult with at Being Loud Sis would have thoughts about the metaphors of how the yacht successfully navigates the choppy waters between Lover’s Beach on its daily excursions, but I will leave that discussion for another story.

Here, we are sticking with the soothe waters. With features such as its kids’ club, babysitting, 24/7 room service and both family and adult swimming pools, Hacienda Encantada has created an experience where everyone can stay calm and enjoy themselves. Whether you’re traveling as a family, with a group of friends who want a retreat experience or as a working professional who’s looking for a place to escape, come to get pampered and “just be.”

Dayna Lynne North is a writer/producer and founder of @BeingLoudSis, a wellness brand.

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On a windy Sunday morning outside the Los Angeles Sparks’ practice facility in El Segundo, Olympic bronze medalist and WNBA forward Dearica Hamby balanced her dual roles as an elite athlete and devoted mother.

Photographer Bradley Meinz and I were meeting with Hamby and her two children, 22-month-old Legend and 7-year-old Amaya, for this month’s cover shoot. In between Meinz’s cues and camera clicks, Amaya dribbled a basketball across the gym’s court, turned everything in sight into an apparatus for her long limbs to climb on and played with her baby brother, who was perched on their mother’s left hip.

“Alright, let’s try it again!” Meinz called out. Amaya, holding a black-and-gold Jordan “Legacy” ball up like a trophy, snapped into place beside her mother and brother, who grinned as his grandmother played his favorite tune — “If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands” — from a cell phone.

With gentle nudges, humor and a quicksilver instinct that makes her formidable on the court as a forward, Hamby, guided her children through the photo shoot. The two-time WNBA All-Star and WNBA champion joined the Sparks roster in January 2023 after successful stints with the Las Vegas Aces and San Antonio Stars. Her recent accolades include a bronze medal at the 2024 Paris Olympics (where she led the U.S. team in rebounds and ranked second in scoring) and a Kim Perrot Sportsmanship Award in 2024.

In this interview, she talks about her journey from late-blooming basketball player to champion and mother, proving that with determination and support, it’s possible to excel both in sports and parenthood.

Congratulations on your Olympic medal! Tell us about that experience.

The Olympics was a cool experience! Honestly, it’s one of those things that I’ve appreciated more in hindsight, because in the moment it was super exhausting — from playing the games, practices, to all the media demands, but it’s still an experience I’ll never forget.

My mom and kids had the best time. My mom worked the ‘96 Olympics in Atlanta, so to see how proud she and Amaya were probably meant the most to me. Amaya was on the plane the entire flight telling everyone her mom was in the Olympics. After we won bronze, she stayed up super late, waiting on me to walk in holding my hand. She got to go back to school and share the stories with her classmates. Legend won’t remember, but the pictures of him and Amaya all over Paris will be timeless.  

What is your basketball origin story?

I was a late bloomer. I didn’t have basketball idols because I came to the game so late. Funny enough, Andruw Jones from the Atlanta Braves was kind of my sports idol. The motivating factor for me to play [basketball] was that I had grown 5 inches from my freshman year of high school to my sophomore year. I initially thought the game was just going take me to college and allow me to further my education. I chose Wake Forest University, and by the end of my junior year I think that’s when people would start to call me a pro and told me I had a chance to play in the WNBA. I still to this day can’t believe I’m where I am because I was never a “top player” growing up. 

What unique challenges do you face as one of the few mothers active in the WNBA?

Mainly, the inconsistency in our schedule. My kids are super great and flexible and have really helped me and us with adjusting to the lifestyle. They’re very involved in my work life. It’s challenging at times, but also very rewarding. I don’t work a traditional 9-5, which allows me the flexibility to be with my kids more. But also, there [are] times when I’m gone for three to four days at a time. And when Amaya was young, sometimes up to three weeks before she could come join me. 

Can you describe a typical day — both on and offseason?

Off season is a bit more predictable. We wake up, and I get Amaya ready [for school], we have breakfast, Legend and I drop off Amaya at school. Sometimes, I’ll take Legend to a class because he’s not in daycare, and between that and 3 p.m. (which is when I pick Amaya up), I work out. If I can’t get a workout in, then I usually do it at night and bring the kids with me. I really commit to my offseason being about resting and giving them my undivided attention for at least a month and half. They take priority in the offseason until about a month before the season.

During the season, my mom is usually with me and helping out with the kids — and my sister does as well. They’ve both traveled on the road with me. It’s a blessing to be able to have family watch your kids. Nothing against daycare or babysitters, but I think it’s made a difference in my ability to do my job without as much mom guilt. 

Amaya also spends a month or so with her dad during the summer, and that’s when I’ll take Legend on the road with me. Now that the WNBA has chartered flights instead of commercial travel, it’s been really nice to have that flexibility.

Has Amaya shown interest in playing basketball? She seems so athletic already!

She loves it. She loves the WNBA. And it’s so cool now because she knows the players, she really likes watching it and she has her favorites. Sabrina Ionescu (New York Liberty) is one of them. And she builds bonds with my teammates, which helps because they distract her sometimes. She’s into tennis, though. That’s her thing. She trains two to four times a week and really has picked it up. She hasn’t asked to play basketball. I think she kind of likes the fun side of Mommy being a basketball player and doesn’t want to change that.

How has motherhood influenced your approach to basketball?

I try to stay as authentic as I can while doing whatever I do at 100%. I had a coach once tell me that if I wanted to be a mom, I should just go and do that. I think that was the turning point that pushed me to prove that it was possible to be great at both. I do what I’m supposed to do for my few hours of work, and then I go home, and I am all about my kids. When I had my second kid, I felt like the narrative that I only cared about being a mom pushed me to playing the best basketball of my career — all while still being a great mother! 

How has your experience with pregnancy and motherhood in the WNBA shaped your advocacy for other women athletes?

At first, I don’t think I realized what I was doing when I had my first kid at 22. [Former WNBA player] Candace Parker made it “OK,” but it was still a bit unorthodox within our sport. I never imagined the WNBA in my long-term plans. I also think a lot of people in the past have been written off due to pregnancy or not given opportunities. I’ve been fortunate that I’ve been in situations where I might’ve had a little more grace and care that encouraged me to stay the course.

What changes would you like to see in the WNBA to better support players who are mothers or planning to become mothers?

I think our last CBA [Collective Bargaining Agreement] met the mark at the time with what had been previously set in place. I think the intention has always been good, but just not fully understood. To me, the benefits in our CBA cater more to the partners of WNBA players. I think the problem is also the language around “planning.” I can’t “plan while I play” because it’s frowned upon… But you can’t “plan” after you’re done playing because we don’t have health insurance post playing. So truthfully… when is it ever the “right time?” And there needs to be a bit of protection while you’re actually pregnant.

What advice would you give to young women athletes who aspire to have both a professional sports career and a family?

My advice would be to follow your heart and don’t make decisions on the what ifs, because that looks different for different people. If I let fear dictate my decision, then my life would look a lot different now, and I wouldn’t want that. I didn’t plan either of my kids, but no matter what happens in my career, they come first. I make my decisions based on them because when it’s all said and done, they will always be there. Basketball won’t. And that’s the thing that always has to stay in perspective. 

In what ways has your experience as a mother influenced your leadership style on the team?

My softness… I need to be better, but everyone looks at me like the team mom. Everyone comes to me with puppy eyes. I try to just be nurturing and reassuring and lead with love [and] doing the right thing because, just like my kids, I know [my teammates] are watching me.

How would you describe each of your children?

Amaya is super protective of me and her brother, and she’s so confident. She doesn’t back down from anything or anybody. She’s also so intelligent and emotionally mature that I forget she’s 7 sometimes! She just loves life. One day she woke up — I kid you not, at 6:15 a.m. — and popped up and said “I love my life! And it’s only been 7 years!” She has a crazy imagination, she plays really well, she’s super independent, but also the life of the party. She’s funny and a little sassy (I blame my teammates for that), but all in all, she has a heart of gold and she truly understands people, which, at her age, is really special.

Legend is also super special in his ability to love and connect to people. He runs up to anyone and hugs them like he’s known them for years. He’s an observer. He doesn’t say much and doesn’t fuss much. He’s really taught me to be in the moment.

What are your favorite things to do in Los Angeles?

Sparks games! The beach. My kids love the beach. They love outdoors. Amaya loves the Santa Monica Pier, and The Grove is always fun to shop. I also enjoy pop-up venues, and there are always good shows at the Crypto.com arena. We are a movies family. We see a lot of movies.

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As a cardiologist, I have spent years working with patients who are dedicated to caring for their families, friends and communities. They work hard to ensure everyone around them is healthy and happy, often sacrificing their own well-being in the process. While these efforts are noble, they can lead to burnout and sometimes serious health conditions, particularly when stress, poor diet and lack of exercise go unchecked.

As we approach a new year, I encourage parents to get “selfish” to ensure you prioritize your health and model that behavior to your children. The word is often used negatively, but let’s re-imagine the concept for the good of the individual and the entire family. The concept is from my book, “Selfish: A Cardiologist’s Guide to Healing a Broken Heart,” and stands for spirituality, exercise, love, food, intimacy, sleep and humor. These pillars are a call to put personal health first and model wellness for our children.

The power of ‘selfish’ for parents

For parents, the idea of being “selfish” can seem counterintuitive. We’re taught to put family first, often at the expense of our own well-being. However, research shows that children model their habits after their parents, and when we take time to care for our own well-being, we’re setting an example they will carry into adulthood. Embracing a healthy lifestyle — particularly with a focus on plant-based eating, stress reduction and physical activity — is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves and our families.

By selfish, I mean committing to principles that protect both your physical and emotional well-being:

Spiritual well-being: Find meaning and purpose while being mindful.

Exercise: Move regularly to strengthen your body.

Love: Practice love and self-love daily.

Food: Adopt a diet that fuels and sustains you, ideally with plant-based options.

Intimacy: Connect deeply with those who support you.

Sleep: Prioritize rest to renew mind and body.

Humor: Use joy and laughter to alleviate stress.

Why a plant-based diet?

Diet is foundational to health, and as a cardiologist, I’ve seen how a plant-based diet can significantly improve heart health, reduce inflammation and increase energy.

For parents, a diet high in fruits, vegetables, legumes, whole grains and nuts can fight common conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes and obesity while keeping energy up. As children see their parents choosing healthy options, they will internalize those choices as positive. By introducing plant-based meals, you can make healthy eating an enjoyable family practice and a personal commitment.

If you’re new to plant-based eating, start by incorporating more vegetables without necessarily going all in at first. Begin with plant-based versions of familiar dishes — veggie stir-fry, veggie burgers or black bean chili. Gradual changes make the transition easier for everyone.

Embracing exercise as family time

Physical activity is critical for health, yet it’s often one of the first things parents sacrifice due to time constraints. Exercise can be a shared activity, and involving kids can build lifelong healthy habits. Consider weekend hikes, family bike rides or simple habits such as regular walks.

Modeling this behavior shows kids that exercise isn’t a chore; rather, it is an integral part of life. It releases endorphins, which improve mood and reduce stress, helping you to stay resilient in the face of daily challenges.

Managing stress

Parenting comes with its own set of stressors. But ongoing stress can affect the heart, immune system and overall well-being. Plus, children pick up on the stress of adults around them. Learning effective stress management techniques can impact your health and that of everyone at home. Practices such as mindfulness meditation, deep breathing and setting aside time for self-care can transform how you respond to stress.

Even small steps matter. Taking a few minutes each morning to breathe deeply or journal can calm the mind and help you start the day from a place of centeredness. When your children see you prioritizing these practices, they learn the importance of emotional self-regulation and resilience.

Sleep as a foundation of wellness

Sleep is a vital part of wellness that we sometimes neglect. A well-rested parent is more patient, alert and energetic. Setting a sleep routine benefits you and normalizes a model of healthy sleep hygiene for everyone.

Encourage bedtime routines where everyone powers down devices and engages in relaxing activities such as reading or practicing gratitude. These habits teach children that sleep is a priority and an essential part of health.

Teaching self-care through your actions

Ultimately, embracing a selfish lifestyle isn’t about neglecting the family; it’s about meeting your own needs so you can be fully present for the family. When children see parents prioritizing self-care, they learn that health isn’t optional — it’s essential.

In the long term, a healthy lifestyle leads to better physical health, resilience and emotional stability. When we are balanced, we are more capable of providing for our loved ones in meaningful ways and creating a legacy where our children learn that self-care is important.

Embrace being selfish with your health. It’s one of the most selfless things you can do.

Columbus Batiste, M.D., is Kaiser Permanente Southern California’s Regional Chief of Cardiology and practices in Riverside County. He is the author of “Selfish: A Cardiologist Guide to Healing a Broken Heart” and is committed to empowering his patients and the community to make healthy changes in their lives.

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