Few collective experiences celebrated around the world inspire goal setting, demonstrate the power of teamwork and teach the value in reaching for dreams as powerfully as the Olympics. And with Los Angeles set to host the games in 2028, this summer is the perfect time to start making Olympic-sized memories with our children.

Big dreams begin at home

I first became a fan of the Olympics in the summer of 1976, when I gathered with my friends to watch Queen Elizabeth proclaim the opening of the Montreal Olympic Games. The kids in my neighborhood decided to host our own “backyard Olympics.” Apparently, I wasn’t the only child inspired by those games. Olympic track and field gold medalist Jackie Joyner-Kersee said, “It wasn’t until I was 14 and watched the 1976 Olympic games on television that I really started to dream about the big time.” Watching UCLA’s Evelyn Ashford compete in the 100-meters dash inspired Joyner-Kersee to also become a Bruin and eventually compete and medal in four Olympics.

Back in the ‘70s, we turned the shiny insides of Peter Pan peanut butter jars into gold medals. We covered Smucker’s jelly lids with tin foil to make the silver medals.  Bronze medal recipients received brown construction paper circles with BRONZE written on them in black crayon. We threw a broomstick javelin and a baking potato shotput, measured our long jumps with yardsticks and were covered in grass following our summersault-filled floor exercises.

The memories we made have lasted a lifetime, which is why I’ve continued the tradition with my own children every four years, including last summer when, in between watching the events in Paris, relatives and friends who happened by our house stood a chance to medal in kickboard races in the pool, water polo with a Vaseline-covered watermelon or a USA version of P-I-G at our local basketball court. We even played a round of Olympic Yahtzee.

The good news is you don’t have to wait for the games to come to L.A. to get in on the action. Here are a few fun activities you can do this summer to inspire your aspiring athletes to get moving and dreaming of going for the gold!

New ways to get active

Run by L.A.’s Department of Recreation and Parks, PlayLA is set to impact more than one million kids by the time the 2028 Olympic torch is lit. It boasts a broad array of youth athletic programs, including 26 Olympic and 10 Paralympic sports. Local public pools are not just for swimming. Many also offer water polo, synchronized swimming and kayaking lessons. Flag football will be a new Olympic sport in 2028, and multiple locations offer classes and leagues to join.

Inclusivity for every young athlete

Most summer leagues and clinics through PlayLA kick off July 7. Go to laparks.org/play-la to register for these low- to no-cost sports supported by a $160 million investment from LA28 and the International Olympic Committee.

Though Los Angeles hosted the Olympic Games in 1932 and 1984, the 2028 Olympics will mark L.A.’s first time ever also hosting the Paralympic Games and, with that in mind, the adaptive sports offerings by PlayLA are robust, including tennis, para-equestrian opportunities and wheelchair basketball.

“PlayLA Youth and Adaptive Youth Sports Program has transformed the way we deliver sports to our youth,” says Department of Recreation and Parks General Manager Jimmy Kim. “We have been able to provide access to high-quality, inclusive and affordable Olympic and Paralympic style sports for kids. This movement reflects the spirit of the Games and ensures that this generation grows up with the opportunity to play, compete and dream in their own communities.”

Days and evenings full of fun

Summer Night Lights (SNL) is the extended recreation program at 40 public park sites across the city. Families and teens can enjoy a variety of activities with extended evening hours Thursdays through Saturdays, often including free food and movie nights. South Park, Hubert Humphrey and Costello recreation centers all have SNL kickoff events slated for July 10.

PlayLA Day – July 14 will mark three years until the opening ceremonies of the 2028 Olympics, and PlayLA will celebrate with a free event from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m., offering Olympic-inspired activities for kids and families at L.A. Memorial Coliseum (the first venue in the world to host three Olympic Opening Ceremonies!). Registration is required. Go to laparks.org and search “PlayLA Day.”

Attention older kids –PlayLAis hiring coaches, especially for specialty sports such as skateboarding, fencing and archery. For more information, contact PlayLA via email at rap.playla@lacity.org.

GAME ON! Science, Sports & Play – Just across Exposition Park from the iconic Coliseum, you’ll find GAME ON! Science, Sports & Play, an all-new interactive exhibit at the California Science Center. Aspiring young Olympians can participate in hands-on activities and learn the science behind success.

“GAME ON! is engaging from the moment you enter the colorful space,” says Alyson Goodall, senior vice president and chief advancement officer for the California Science Center Foundation. “It’s incredibly immersive and interactive, and a wonderful opportunity for children to practice skills for familiar sports or try something new, all with virtual guidance from mentor athletes and rooted in core science principles.”          

Imagine practicing your swing and having Dodgers first baseman and World Series Champion Freddie Freeman offer tips on how to plant your feet with video playback! How about virtually swimming alongside Paralympian Jamal Hill as he demonstrates the physics of thrust, drag, buoyancy and gravity that helped him win his bronze medal?  How cool would it be if your soccer-loving child could get kicking advice from Angel City FC’s sister duo Alyssa and Gisele Thompson? And then there is “Lethal Shooter” Chris Matthews, who has worked as a shooting coach for numerous WNBA and NBA standouts. At GAME ON!, young athletes can learn the science behind the flight path speed of a basketball and test the arc and angle of their own shots.

“One of the best parts,” adds Goodall, “is that even if you’re not the one doing the activity, kids are gathering around, cheering each other on as they explore the science and test their skills.”

Thanks to the collaboration between the Los Angeles Dodgers Foundation, the LA84 Foundation and the Walter Family Foundation, the 17,000-square-feet exhibition is included with free admission to the California Science Center, though groups of 15 or more need timed reservations. Call 213.744.2019 or visit californiasciencecenter.org.

Your own backyard or local park

If you want to stay closer to home, why not bring the games to your own yard or a nearby park and use these easy ideas as inspiration?

1. Jar lids can be spray painted gold, silver and bronze if you want to get crafty while recycling and repurposing with your kids. Don’t have lids, ribbons or time? Many companies offer easy options. Visit orientaltrading.com for starters.  
2. Got a ping pong table or badminton set? Encourage your children to work on their skills throughout the summer with a friendly competition planned before school begins again.
3. If you have a pool for diving or a grassy space for a gymnastics floor exercise, make the judge’s score cards, make a list of moves that earn points and let kids rate the moves they like best.
4. Set up races down the sidewalk or around a park path. Let kids who don’t want to run keep the times.

Making summer memories shine

There is still time to get your young gymnasts and synchronized swimmers, weightlifters and badminton champions to put down their electronics and start dreaming of gold.

It might be one of their favorite memories of the summer of 2025, and it might get them thinking about what sports they’d like to see in person when the Olympics come to town in just three summers!

Suzanne Weerts is an author, teacher and producer who loves sports but is far more effective as a fan than an athlete. 

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With more than 3,700 miles of hiking trails in Southern California alone, you could spend every day exploring a new trail, but if you’d like your family to join you on some of those excursions this summer, consider choosing trails that everyone — all ages and abilities — might enjoy.

These suggestions for outdoor activities take into consideration the contrasting needs of hyperactive young children and aging adults with limited mobility, including those using powered devices and walkers. Bring water, sunblock, hats, shades, snacks, binoculars and comfortable shoes to all of them. All parks listed are ADA-compliant.

South Coast

Wetlands and marshes

Madrona Marsh Preserve and Nature Center – Torrance; Tues-Sat, 10 a.m.-5 p.m.

Little kids love this small park, which offers a series of educational programs tailored to them. There are brochures in the parking area for self-guided tours. At least 275 species of birds live in this park. Dogs not allowed. 

El Dorado Nature Center – Long Beach; Tue-Sun, 8 a.m.-5 p.m.

In this manmade environment built with the soil extracted from construction of the 605 Freeway, children can enjoy watching turtles bask in the sun while older folks can rest by the lake to look at the waterfowl. With three connecting loops, the park offers a total of 3.25 miles of trail, mostly shaded. The soil is so soft that people often walk barefooted. Parking $8-$9 on holidays; passes with senior discounts. Dogs not allowed.

Ballona Wetlands Ecological Reserve – Marina del Rey; daily

Enjoy about four miles of soft trail. Watch for butterflies. Look for easy parking on Bluff Creek Drive.

Bolsa Chica Ecological Reserve – Seal Beach; daily, 6 a.m.- 8 p.m.

Originally home to the Tongva people, this rich coastal ecosystem surrounding a tidal mouth has been a restoration project for decades. The 1,300-acre park offers four miles of flat trail accessible to powered mobility devices and strollers. From the trails, visitors have a vantage point to observe Bolsa Chica’s biodiversity far beyond the beautiful birds, including endangered plants and even sea lions. Pamphlets are available at the two free parking lots. Dogs not allowed.

Ken Malloy Harbor Regional Park –Wilmington; daily, dawn to dusk

Around 300 species of migratory birds enjoy the freshwater lake, the tule marsh and the willow forest. The two flat trails have a total combined distance of 5 miles. Free parking. Fishing permit needed.

Overlooking the Ocean

Point Vicente Coastal Trail –Palos Verdes Peninsula; daily, dawn to dusk

Also known as Vicente Bluffs, this trail runs several miles east and west parallel to the south rim of the peninsula. Stroll west as long as you can, taking in the spectacular view. Don’t miss the interpretative center, the whale-watching deck or the lighthouse, which opens only on second Saturdays. Have a picnic or watch the sunset. It’s all free, including parking. Bring a jacket. Leashed dogs are OK.

Urban

Kenneth Hahn Recreation Area – Los Angeles; March to October, 6 a.m.-8 p.m.

Nestled between La Cienega Boulevard and La Brea Avenue in Baldwin Hills, Kenneth Hahn is an urban gem with a network of hiking trails at varying difficulty levels. The trail closest to the Japanese garden is ADA compliant. To avoid parking fees, use the shuttle bus for 25 cents.

Suburban

Powder Canyon Trail – La Habra; dawn to dusk

The best family-friendly trail of the entire Puente Hills Preserve is a 1.1-mile portion of the Powder Canyon. Equipped with complete facilities. Leashed dogs allowed.

Mountain

Crystal Lake Recreation Area/Campground – Angeles National Forest, accessed from Azusa via California Highway 39

This overnight camping trip requires planning. Adventure pass and fishing permit are needed. Senior discounts are available. Pack all you need to feed and shelter your family for a weekend, but think simple, practical and economical. California Highway 39 is a long, winding road shared with cyclists going uphill. Kids might need something for motion sickness.

At 6,000-feet elevation, Crystal Lake campground has running water, clean bathrooms and 120 tent sites. Arrive late on Thursday or early on Friday ahead of Labor Day to secure one of the three ADA-compliant sites. Use only designated, bear-proof garbage containers. Leave no trace is the principle.

There are two ADA-accessible, interpretative trails with brochures: Golden Cup Trail (0.25 miles) and Pinyon Ridge Trail (a new 1-mile loop). The lake trail is 2 miles long and mostly on the road, then you hike down the last .25 miles on a wide trail. Swimming is not allowed. For a greater challenge, older children and strong adults can take an adventure day of their own. Windy Gap Trail is 2.5 miles long (one way) with an 1,380-elevation gain of moderate difficulty. It serves as a popular path to the Pacific Crest Trail and to Little Jimmy Trail Camp. Visit sierraclub.org for a list of 10 essentials to bring. Pick up a trail map at the ranger’s office.

If you can only stay in the Crystal Lake recreation area and walk the short trails around camp, do not be discouraged. Disconnect from your digital devices and play camp games, creating beautiful memories for your family along with the breathtaking views of the San Gabriel Canyon.

Born in Venezuela, Lisbeth Coiman is a trekker of intersecting paths and an avid hiker with aching knees. She is the author of “I Asked the Blue Heron: A memoir” and “Uprising/Alzamiento,” a poetry collection that calls attention to the humanitarian crisis in her homeland. Visit lisbethcoiman.com.

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In the bustling rhythm of Los Angeles life, parents often juggle multiple responsibilities, striving to provide the best for their children. Amidst this hustle, understanding the foundational role of attachment in a child’s development becomes paramount.

Attachment refers to the deep emotional bond that develops between a child and their caregiver. This connection lays the groundwork for a child’s sense of security and influences their social, emotional and cognitive development. Secure attachments foster confidence, resilience and the ability to form healthy relationships throughout life. Children with secure attachments often exhibit:

• Emotional Regulation: They can manage their emotions effectively, leading to fewer behavioral issues.
• Social Competence: Securely attached children tend to have better social skills, enabling them to build strong peer relationships.
• Cognitive Development: A secure base allows children to explore their environment, promoting learning and intellectual growth.

Conversely, insecure attachment styles — which may result from inconsistent, unresponsive or unpredictable caregiving — can have lasting effects. These children may struggle with:

• Anxiety and low self-esteem.
• Difficulty trusting others or forming close relationships.
• Emotional dysregulation and impulsivity.
• Academic challenges and reduced motivation.

Without early intervention or supportive relationships later in life, these patterns can persist into adulthood, influencing everything from romantic relationships to parenting styles and mental health.

Fostering Secure Attachments

Parents and caregivers can nurture secure attachments by:

• Being Responsive: Attending to a child’s needs promptly and consistently builds trust.
• Engaging in Quality Time: Shared activities and attentive interactions strengthen the parent-child bond.
• Providing a Safe Environment: A stable and predictable environment helps children feel secure and supported.

Recognizing the importance of community in parenting, we’ve established a supportive group for families seeking guidance on fostering secure attachments. This community offers resources, expert insights and a platform for shared experiences.

For parents interested in deepening their understanding and application of attachment principles, consider joining our supportive community group: www.skool.com/attachment-matters-family

Heather Thompson is the founder of Attachment Matters, LLC, dedicated to supporting families in nurturing secure attachments and promoting healthy child development.

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As many new parents know, those early days and months with your baby can be filled with exhaustion, sadness, frustration and even rage, as much as it can be filled with joy and love. Playwright, comedy writer, performer and educator Jessica Mele decided to put those emotions into her work as an artist to create her one woman show, “Eat the Mama,” which will have its L.A. debut at the Hollywood Fringe Festival in June.

We got the chance to ask Jessica more about her show, navigating life as an artist and parent and where she likes to go around her Santa Clarita neighborhood and in L.A.

Congratulations on your show, “Eat the Mama,” and its L.A. premiere. Please tell us a little about the inspiration behind it and your writing process.

“Eat the Mama” began with my time as a new mother, writing furiously in tear-stained journals at 3 a.m. I’ve always been an emotional journal writer and those early motherhood days were pure emotion. Everything went in those journals – fights with my husband about cleaning bottles; feeling like a dairy cow, strapped to my breast pump; power struggles with my child as he grew and learned to say “no.” I wrote them down and then put those feelings away and never looked at them again.

Then, in 2021 we were spending a lot of time indoors due to the pandemic, and I felt a desperate need to do something creative. I enrolled in a “Write your own 10-Minute Solo Show” zoom workshop, and thumbed through those journals looking for material. I had enough distance from the pain and anger of the early years to write about those emotions. Then, I worked with a writing coach (playwright Megan Cohen, who is terrific) to turn that into a full-length show, which was a process of developing new material and collaging it together. 

I think I just wanted to be seen. I spent so much of early motherhood feeling unseen as the mother that I was, which felt so far away from my idealized version of a “mother.” I was not gentle, patient or calm. I was an anger bomb a lot of the time.

What do you wish other moms who are also playwrights, performers or artists knew about navigating both the artist life and parent life?

They already know how hard it is, and how necessary it is to maintain a creative practice. I can only speak from my own experience: I am happiest – and a better parent – when I have a creative outlet, which for me requires being seen. But it has been hard to accept that my capacity and energy for making art is different than it was before I became a parent. I need to remind myself that whatever “art thing” I’m doing, it’s enough – as long as I’m sharing it with someone. So, I just have to do the next art thing, and the next, and the next. Whatever that is, whatever scale or scope. Right now, my next art thing is “Eat the Mama” at Hollywood Fringe. And that’s enough. If you have ideas about the art thing after that, I’m taking suggestions!

Did you have a mentor growing up? And what role did that person play in your life and your career?

My mom (now retired) was an early childhood educator and a dancer and storyteller. Her creativity was woven into who she was as a person, and who she was professionally. She nurtured a playful, creative home for me and my brother. And she always took our artmaking seriously. She loved and supported us no matter what – “Even if you wanted to be an elephant trainer when you grow up!” She told me that once, when I was in high school. And she meant it! (BTW – my brother is the set designer for “Eat the Mama.” That’s a whole other level of joy, getting to make art with my sibling.)

I have struggled with many things as a parent and an artist – how to make money and art, how to keep my creativity alive when I’m hustling to work, how to love myself when my version of motherhood is so different from what I thought it would be. But I have always felt loved and supported by my mom just as I am, as an artist, as a parent and as a person.

You were living in the Bay Area prior to moving to Santa Clarita. How was that transition as a mom and as a family?

What a big move! I cried and journaled and cried and journaled. We went from living in a city to suburbia; from two bedrooms to three; from not knowing our neighbors to having the neighborhood kids making art in our garage after school. Our child started second grade at a school three times as big as his old one! Honestly, he made friends faster than we did. Everyone in our neighborhood knew him by name within the first month. My husband and I are still finding our grown-up people here, and we miss living closer to the ocean. But being in Santa Clarita has given us the chance to own a home for the first time, a school within walking distance, and plenty of hiking trails. It’s opened up a whole new social world for our child, and that has been beautiful to watch.

When not working, where will we find you?

Lately, I’ve been networking at Hollywood Fringe Festival events. I love how the festival really builds a community among its eclectic list of artists. There will be 400 shows at the festival this year! My current promotional packet involves space candy inside Medela breast milk bags with “Eat the Mama” stickers. When I meet a person who recognizes those bags, I know I’ve found my audience. I want more people to see this play!

What are some of your favorite spots and activities in and around L.A. and Santa Clarita?

Santa Clarita: Toppers Pizza in Valencia, CA is a family favorite. Family bike rides along the paseos in Santa Clarita – we saw a bobcat in the riverbed behind our house! The Loaf Japanese bakery in Newhall, CA. I’m a pastry junkie!

L.A.: Little Tokyo (I work virtually, but the organization I work for – the Center for Cultural Innovation) has an office there and I love browsing the shops and eats.

WGA Library for a nice quiet place to work in L.A. You don’t have to be a member to use the library, but they are not joking when they say that they will not let you in without an appointment.

Little Green Art Studio (now in Frogtown): I took a holiday wreath making workshop here and it was such a calm, joyful, creative experience. 

Mercado La Paloma food court: a food court with a Michelin-starred restaurant? Who could ask for more? Casual and so, so delicious. 

“Eat the Mama” performs June 6, 20, 21, 22 and 27 at The Hudson Theatres, 6539 Santa Monica Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 9038

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In these challenging times, raising emotionally healthy children can feel like a fleeting fairytale. Below, Jenna Haeflinger-Kurtz, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the director of Early Intervention & Community Wellness at Wellnest, shares some tips for nurturing our children’s well-being, navigating tough emotions and creating a supportive home environment.

In addition to programs for children, Wellnest runs a comprehensive maternal mental health program featuring specialized therapy through its home visitation program to support people experiencing postpartum depression, anxiety, birth trauma and the emotional complexities of parenting. Rooted in trauma-informed, culturally responsive care, the services create a safe space for mothers to heal, Haeflinger-Kurtz says.

Moms are still the primary caregivers. How can they be supported so their well-being is also maintained?

Self-care is essential, not selfish. I encourage moms to find time for themselves — whether it’s a quiet morning coffee, a hair or nail appointment, maybe a yoga class or a dinner with a friend. And it doesn’t have to be elaborate. Even setting boundaries, like putting your phone away during a meal or taking a short walk alone, can help recharge your energy. 

What are the critical components of wellness for young kids that parents should be aware of?

In early childhood, it is important children and parents understand that emotions are part of a child’s daily life. We all experience joy, excitement, frustration, sadness, disappointment and anger. Children gradually develop skills over time to manage the continuum of emotions. Here are a few critical components of wellness:

• Teaching children that all their feelings, from joy and happiness to frustration and sadness — are perfectly normal. We want to help them to name what they feel.
• We want to encourage our children to use calming strategies like deep breathing or finding a nice, quiet space when they feel overwhelmed.
• As parents, we always want to be a reliable source of safety and comfort when our children face challenges, whether it’s starting at a new daycare or experiencing a new sibling’s arrival. A hug or reassuring words go a long way to build trust and security.
• During our busy schedules, it is important to take a minute to slow down and see situations from your child’s point of view. Their meltdowns aren’t just misbehavior — they are working through big emotions with their still-developing brains.

What are some types of traumas that you see in young children, and how do you address them?

When we think about trauma in early childhood, it’s important to remember that trauma isn’t just about what happens to a child; it’s about how they experience it.

Some of the most common types of trauma we see in young children include the loss of a loved one, exposure to violence, neglect or abuse, separation from a caregiver and highly stressful life events: a parent’s serious illness, homelessness or major disruptions in their environment. Even things like frequent moves or instability at home can feel very traumatic to a young child who craves stability, predictability and safety.

The impact of trauma can show up in different ways. Some children become more withdrawn or anxious, while others might show more aggressive or defiant behavior. Sleep issues, frequent tantrums or difficulty separating from a caregiver can also be signs of distress.

But with the right support and services, young children are incredibly resilient. The key to healing is a strong, secure relationship with a trusted caregiver. That’s why, at Wellnest, we focus on working with both the child and their caregiver, using child-parent psychotherapy (CPP), an evidence-based approach designed specifically for young children who have experienced trauma.

Through this therapy, we help parents and children process difficult experiences together in a way that builds trust, strengthens their bond and helps the child feel safe again. We focus on emotional regulation, attachment and communication, giving parents the tools to support their child through tough emotions and create an environment where they can heal. An example of this is a technique that we use often here at Wellnest: “rainbow breathing.” Rainbow breathing starts with asking the child to focus on their breath and imagine a rainbow. As they take each breath, they will breathe up the arc, starting with the color red, and then breathe down the arc, continuing on until they have gone through all the colors of the rainbow. The wonderful thing about this simple exercise is it can be done anywhere.

Ultimately, the goal of therapy is to make the parent-child relationship the child’s greatest source of security and resilience. No child should have to navigate trauma alone — and no parent should feel like they have to figure it all out on their own, either. With the right support, families can heal together.

Can you give us some hands-on practical tips on how parents can enhance their child’s daily well-being?

One of the best ways to help children develop emotional awareness is through storytelling and books. Reading together not only builds literacy but also gives kids language for their emotions. If a child is struggling with transitions, a book about starting preschool can help them feel understood. If they’ve recently lost a pet or loved one, a book about grief can open up space for conversation.

Another powerful tool is modeling emotions and coping strategies. Young children look to us to understand how to handle big feelings. I always encourage parents to share their own emotions in an age-appropriate way. For example, after a tough day, you might say, “I felt really frustrated at work today, so I took some deep breaths and went for a walk to help myself feel better.” This helps kids see that emotions are normal and that there are ways to manage them.

Movement and play are also key. Thankfully, L.A. is full of opportunities for outdoor adventures. Whether it’s exploring a local park or just running barefoot in the backyard, movement helps kids regulate their emotions. Sensory play — like playing with sand at the beach, splashing in water or using playdough — can also be calming for children, giving them an outlet to work through big emotions.

What do you wish all parents knew?

I wish parents knew — really knew — that they are doing an amazing job! We are constantly bombarded with messages telling us we need to do more: more activities, more enrichment, more organic meals, more quality time, more perfection.

What I want parents to know is that good enough is truly good enough. Children don’t need perfect parents. They need parents who love them, who show up and who are willing to grow alongside them. They need parents who will make mistakes and then model what it looks like to repair, because that’s real life.

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When my 2-year-old daughter died in her sleep of unknown causes (Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood—SUDC), I was crippled by grief and guilt. Although no cause of death could be determined after a thorough autopsy, genetic testing and death investigation, I was certain I must have unwittingly done — or not done — something that contributed to Alice’s death.

No matter how many professionals assured me there was nothing I could have done to prevent my daughter’s death, my internal judge insisted otherwise.

I was hanging by a thread.

The Southern California Counseling Center (SCCC) and its sliding-scale trauma therapy saved my life. SCCC is one of few sliding-scale centers in California that offer trauma-based therapy modalities. Through my work in healthcare, I knew about these modalities, including eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR). This knowledge enabled me to seek treatment as soon as trauma symptoms began to manifest six to 10 weeks after Alice died.

But even once the guilt surrounding Alice’s death began to subside, I realized I’d been living in a constant state of baseline guilt since the minute my eldest was born. I felt guilty about being away from the kids when I was at work and guilty about not working enough when I was home. I felt guilty when my kids didn’t share their toys, eat their vegetables and when they fell and skinned their knees. Yet I was completely unaware of this constant background chorus of guilt until I was eventually able to release the guilt over Alice’s inexplicable death.

While the source and depth of parental guilt is influenced by individual circumstances, Eliza Steel, a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), relational trauma therapist and supervisor at SCCC, suggests all forms of it share a common thread. “Parental guilt is a reaction to a self-perceived expectation we didn’t meet,” Steel says.

Five years ago, The Washington Post called parental guilt a silent epidemic, and with today’s parents having navigated a global pandemic and all of its repercussions, fresh guilts sprouted and spread in parents all over the world.

Like a scientist studying a virus, I became curious about the source of parental guilt — and how to treat it.

Generational shifts in parenting styles

Although it was somewhat validating to learn I was far from alone in my self-imposed prison, I wondered what led to its precipitous rise in our society. Steel suggests it may come down to when a parent was born. “The current generations of parents weren’t born with internet or social media,” she says. “We were plastic enough to get on board, but it is not our second nature like Gen Z. Therefore, we didn’t develop tools to protect ourselves against other people’s opinion and judgment.”

Gen X and Millennials seem more prone to guilt — including the waves of inadequacy we might feel from watching a social media influencer seemingly run their households and parent their littles with style and finesse — than our Boomer or Silent Generation parents. And there’s a reason for this, according to Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, Ph.D., a licensed clinical psychologist and author of “Mom Brain: Proven Strategies to Fight the Anxiety, Guilt, and Overwhelming Emotions of Motherhood — And Relax into Your New Self.”

“Our generation feels like we need to keep tabs on our kids 24-7 and are responsible for entertaining them,” DiMarco says. “Also, we have access to phones which allow us track our child’s every movement and reach them wherever they are. And because we have this technology, we feel like we need to use it.”

My parents are Boomers. I could have been running a drug cartel during summer break in elementary school, and they would have had no idea.

According to Morgan Cutlip, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of “Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself,” the baseline guilt many parents feel today (especially felt by mothers) was less prevalent in previous generations. The Silent Generation (born 1928-1945) emphasized self-reliance, discipline and respect for authority in their children, and Boomers (1946-1964) took most of that parenting approach to heart with their children.

“Gen X and Millennials placed a far greater emphasis on gentleparenting, emotional validation and psychological well-being, leading to heightened awareness of their children’s needs, but also a greater likelihood of guilt when they feel they aren’t meeting every expectation,” Cutlip says.

And one significant contributor is the increasing prevalence of intensive mothering, she adds. “This ideology suggests that mothers should dedicate an extraordinary amount of time, energy and financial resources to their children’s development. Intensive mothering is rooted in several core beliefs, including, ‘good mothering should feel difficult. If it’s not hard, you’re not doing it right.’ This standard creates an unsustainable level of pressure, making guilt an almost inevitable consequence.”

Gender differences in experiencing guilt

While exploring my relationship with parental guilt, I noticed that most of the literature was geared toward moms. In an interview with Notre Dame News about her 2020 parenting study with Lindsay Heldreth, Abigail Ocobock, assistant professor in the Department of Sociology and the Gender Studies Program at the University of Notre Dame, said there may be a reason why. “Put simply, moms felt guilty whatever they were doing; dads did not. In the rare cases when dads took on most of the parenting and schooling labor, moms felt very guilty and indebted to them.

“More often, though, moms felt guilty even though they were already doing most of the parenting and schooling labor; it was never enough. By contrast, not a single dad mentioned feeling guilty about having to work or not spending enough time with their kids during the pandemic. Dads seemed to have a much easier time hiding away somewhere in the house and focusing on their own work or needs.”

I asked DiMarco why that might be. “For generations, women have been socialized to believe that it’s their job to be the primary caretakers of their children. Full-time single dads and two-dad families are not subjected to this socialization, so they’re freer to figure out their roles as parents.”

Cutlip agrees. “I once asked my husband if he ever felt guilty about leaving the kids while traveling for work, and his response was, ‘Maybe for a minute, but it’s my job.’ It was so cut and dry — and completely unrelatable,” she says.

How parental guilt affects kids

As I attempted to untangle myself from the web of guilt I’d spun around myself, I wondered what effect it had upon my kids. For that, DiMarco offers a word of caution: “If a parent overindulges their children out of a sense of guilt, they risk raising children who are entitled and spoiled. If a parent’s guilt leaves them depleted of energy and distracted, they won’t be able to engage with their children in the way they wish to.”

This kind of parenting is stressful, Cutlip says. “When parents, especially mothers, parent from a place of guilt, it often leads to a hypervigilant parenting style where the pressure to ‘get everything right’ becomes overwhelming,” she says. “This can cause moms to neglect their own well-being, leading to burnout and resentment toward the very people they’re working so hard to care for. When a mother is running on empty, self-regulation becomes harder (understandably so!). This can mean shorter tempers, emotional exhaustion and feeling disconnected from both herself and her children.”

Addressing our guilt with self-compassion

Releasing some of our guilt doesn’t mean we should neglect self-reflection and accountability in our parenting decisions. We will never get it all right — and that’s OK.

“We don’t need our kids to see us as perfect in order for us to raise good people,” Steel says. “Being perfectly imperfect is a wonderful goal. Repairing after a ‘mess’ is what is most important. In an age-appropriate language, acknowledge that you messed up.”

DiMarco offers three key steps to help reduce our entanglement with guilt:

• Limit social media use. Unfollow all accounts that leave you feeling guilty after you access them.
• Remind yourself of everything you’re doing for your kids. Keep a journal of parenting victories every day.
• Do a values exercise and write down what you value. Stick to those values, even when they don’t indulge what your children want.

Cutlip also offers three steps:

• Identify your impossible standards. What expectations are you holding yourself to? Are they truly realistic? Write them down and challenge whether they’re necessary or coming from societal pressure. For example: Is it necessary to cook full-course meals every day of the week?
• Adjust and reframe. Once you recognize these unsustainable expectations, work on redefining them in a way that aligns with your values without guilt. Perfection isn’t the goal — balance and connection with your kids are the goal.
• Use practical tools like the ones in Cutlip’s free guilt guide, which includes tips such as identifying unrealistic self-expectations, then adjusting and reframing.  

Parental guilt thrives in isolation. But when we share our struggles openly with other parents and mental health professionals, we are reminded that we’re not alone in this journey. Together, we can challenge societal pressures (including an influencer-obsessed culture) and support one another in redefining what it means to be a “good parent.”

During my second-to-last EMDR session, I was able to identify my own unrealistic expectation — that I could have saved Alice from something no team of scientists has yet to discover. I did not have to wait long for the joy to bubble forth after verbalizing this realization to my therapist. Immediately, I felt like someone removed a boulder from my chest.

Suddenly, I truly felt Alice’s presence and, for the first time, feeling her presence brought a smile to my face rather than tears to my eyes. Happy memories swarmed my mind — the crazy way she blotted her eyeball with her beloved blankie, the way she showed every passerby her light-up shoes, the way she’d gently pat my back when I sang her lullabies. As I laughed and remembered these happy times, I had the overwhelming sensation that Alice happily snuggled up to my chest and whispered, “I wuv you, Mama.”

With these sweet memories, I sometimes cry, but they are tears of relief, joy and a beautiful connection that will never sever and never again be marred by guilt.

Melissa M. Monroe, Ph.D., garnered Honorable Mention in Writer’s Digest 2023 Self-Published Book Awards for her book, “Mom’s Search for Meaning: Grief and Growth After Child Loss.” She is a mom, writer and licensed acupuncturist in L.A. Her recent work has appeared in LA Review of Books, New York Times, Slate, Well + Good, Backpacker and Insider.

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From stylish gear for parents on the go to hands-on learning toys for kids, this roundup features the latest must-haves for family life. Whether you’re packing lunches, exploring the outdoors, or keeping toddlers engaged, these products combine function, fun, and a dash of genius.

GillyGro Pro

A unique 5-in-1 backpack perfect for on-the-go. Includes a built-in booster, a waterproof mat, laptop pocket and a universal organizer insert with a sleek and stylish design. $159.99, gillygro.com

Joolz Hub2 Compact Stroller

Ideal for all parents who never realized just how small their favorite coffee shop is. Easy to maneuver one-handed — whether it’s being pushed on a busy pavement or around tight corners in the grocery store. $759, ages birth-4 years, joolz.com

National Geographic Build Your Own Bird Feeder

Everything you need to create a one-of-a-kind design to welcome new friends. Assembly is easy using the included screws, pre-drilled holes and step-by-step illustrated instructions. $14.99, ages 6+, amazon.com

OmieBox UP

This upgraded bento box keeps hot and cold foods separate, with an insulated thermos for warm meals and a built-in ice pack to keep snacks chilled. Leak-proof compartments prevent spills. $49.95, ages 8+, omielife.com

Explore the Outdoors! Travel Camper

Simply open the roof to explore the exciting spaces inside — from a built-in dinette and kitchen to a comfy overhead bunk and restroom. Then flip down the awning, “fire up” the foldout grill and arrange the chairs around the firepit. $59.99, ages 3+, lakeshorelearning.com

Shape and Color Garden

With five unique shape fittings and a colorful mix of flowers and succulents, this bright and playful garden is great for hands-on learning and for building color and counting skills. $19.99, ages 18 months+, amazon.com

Slidewise

Slide, spell, solve. With more than 1,000 possible word combinations, this brainteaser provides hours of entertainment. $12.99, ages 8+, amazon.com

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Food Allergy Institute is a cutting-edge clinical care and research center that is revolutionizing food allergy treatment. They are the largest food allergy treatment center of its kind and are based in Signal Hill, with additional locations in Long Beach and Signal Hill. They take a unique approach to food allergy treatment through their Tolerance Induction Program (TIP), which helps drive FAI’s mission for all children who suffer from food allergies to safely eat whatever they want.

FAI was founded by Dr. Inderpal Randhawa and recently launched “Resilience & Hope: A Food Allergy Podcast” in partnership with Lesley-Anne Stone. The podcast tells the story of Lesley-Anne’s journey with her son, Sam, through the Tolerance Induction Program at the Food Allergy Institute. Sam was diagnosed with multiple, severe life-threatening food allergies at age 1. According to Lesley, Sam started the program when he was 3 and graduated the program at 5. His food allergies are now all in remission and he lives a life of food freedom, eating whatever he wants, whenever he wants. The podcast is available on Spotify, Apple and YouTube.

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Like many new moms, Linnea Dubravac felt a strong need for community, friendship and self-care when she got pregnant with her daughter Lova. Unable to find exactly what she was looking for, she set out to create her own health and wellness focused group, LA Mom Society, where new moms get together once a month for conversation, community and a fun workout or wellness experience.

Tell us a little bit about yourself. Where are you from? What brought you to L.A.?

I am originally from Norway. I moved to Los Angeles in 2015 to study business and experience life in the USA. I then met my husband six weeks after I moved here and never left. That was almost ten years ago, and we haven’t spent a day apart since our second date. He is also from Europe (originally from Serbia) and came to L.A. on a Basketball scholarship and eventually ended up creating Entertainment Lab – a Talent Management company (they manage actors, writers and directors and have offices in Beverly Hills and New York). 

Our baby girl Lova just turned one. We actually just took a trip back home to Norway and I got to show my baby girl where her mama is from, and it was so special to me. I can’t wait to spend more of our Summers in Norway in the future. 

Tell us about LA Mom Society, what inspired you to start it, and how do you see it growing?

I created it when I was pregnant with Lova in 2023. I didn’t know anyone that was pregnant at the time and wanted to have mom friends who were going through the same life experience as I was. I actually met two girls who were pregnant at the same time as me, so we got to experience our pregnancies together which was very special.

LA Mom Society was simply born out of needing mom friends and building a community around me with other moms who had similar aged babies and were in the same stage of life as me. I do weekly meetups with moms and moms-to-be as well as hosting monthly curated wellness events all over L.A. I was imagining these events that I would love to go to, but they unfortunately didn’t exist, so I simply created those events for myself and that’s how it all started. So many of the moms thank me for starting this community and events as they all crave the same thing; a sense of community and friendships with moms who have similar aged babies. 

I’m very passionate about LA Mom Society and it makes me happy. The moms love my events and it’s a way to give them the self-care that they need, so they can come back home feeling refreshed and have a full reset. 

I try to make the events different each month, but I do like to center them around wellness and self-care, because this is what all of us moms need, especially after having a baby and putting the needs of the baby first and ourselves second. After each event, the moms leave feeling fully recharged and relaxed. They love the events, whether they bring their baby or just come alone to hang out with other moms to focus on health and wellness for a couple of hours and leave every event with my signature gift bags full of goodies. I have wonderful brands that love supporting my events and spoiling our moms, such as LivOn Labs (a nutritional supplement company with products such as lypo-spheric vitamin C), Bumpsuit, Dagne Dover, Path Water, Seraphina Maternity, Thorne and much more! I incorporate brands that I genuinely love and use myself, and I also like introducing new brands to L.A. moms and connecting them with brands or companies that we may not have heard of yet. 

We have had some incredible events, such as the Calamigos Guest Ranch event in Malibu where moms had a morning of wellness featuring lymphatic massages, facials by celebrity facialist Nurse Nousha, vitamin injections and a sound bath, also a mommy and me Yoga event at The Mindry Meditation in Malibu and a self-care event (manicures and massages) at Milk+Honey spa in Brentwood. 

We’re just getting started and I can’t wait to see where we go. 

Your daughter just turned one, how has parenthood changed you?

It’s made me a little more patient. It’s truly one of the hardest but most rewarding things to go through. The hardest thing has probably been the broken sleep but I have such a great baby girl so I can’t really complain. My mom likes to remind me how lucky we are that she sleeps so much and sleeps through the night. I was used to sleeping nine hours straight pre-baby, and now I get woken up at 6 a.m. That’s been hard for me, but I shouldn’t really complain because she’s amazing. 

I would say going to sleep earlier and waking up earlier has been an adjustment, although you do get used to it. My husband is also amazing, he takes such good care of us both and lets me sleep a lot. Because breastfeeding a baby every few hours is magical, but takes a lot of energy. He’s a very hands-on dad and I couldn’t have asked for a better husband/father to our daughter. Having a baby has also made us closer, if that is even possible.  

Did you have a mentor growing up? And what role did that person play in your life and your career?

I wouldn’t say I had a mentor growing up, but I have always looked up to my mom. She’s such an optimist and whatever she’s gone through, she still remains such a positive light in everyone’s life. I always see the positive in every situation and that’s what I got from my mom. For any roadblock that comes my way, I accept it and immediately am on to finding a solution. 

Best life advice you received growing up?

As my mom would always say, there are no problems, only solutions. This is probably why I am a great problem-solver. I get it from my mom who is a total optimist. I remember a time when I told my mom three things that I wanted to do but I couldn’t decide on which one so she said to me, just decide on one thing and it will bring you onto the next, otherwise you end up doing nothing. Also, trust your gut, it’s usually right. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.  I am extremely driven and if there is something I want to pursue, I make it happen. It’s one of the things that my husband says I am great at, which is creating things out of nothing. 

Best advice on parenting you’ve received?

Give yourself time. There is no rush after you’ve given birth. Enjoy the newborn bubble and don’t rush back into anything too soon. Everything is temporary, like the lack of/broken sleep. Take a lot of photos and videos because time goes by so fast. Be patient with yourself and your partner and communicate your needs. They say just survive the first year as it’s the hardest. Surround yourself with family and friends and ask for help if you need it. 

When not working, where will we find you?

Spending time with family and friends, Erewhon, watching TV shows and movies with my husband, the beach or traveling. We try to do something new and fun every weekend and it’s really exciting showing our daughter new things. It’s like we get to start a new life all over again, but through our baby’s eyes. 

What are some of your favorite spots and activities in and around L.A.? 

Erewhon, Malibu beaches (my favorites are Broad Beach and Point Dume), movies, comedy shows (although haven’t been to any since pre-baby), eating out at various restaurants such as Juicy Ladies, Joe & The Juice, Kreation Cafe, sushi spots—and I love pizza.

We also love going to different neighborhoods such as Santa Monica, Malibu, Calabasas, West Hollywood and even places like Ojai or down to Laguna Beach. There is a really nice restaurant in Redondo Beach called Turquoise Restaurant, we always stop by there when we go down to Laguna Beach/Newport Beach. 

I also love checking out new places to visit. We recently went to the Santa Barbara Zoo, Underwood Family Farms and Kindred Spirits Care Farm. I have a WhatsApp group for LA Mom Society and we are constantly sending recommendations on places to visit and fun things to do in and around L.A. I love the community, and I’ve made some really good friends since I started it. 

Learn more about Linnea and LA Mom Society at LAMOMSOCIETY.COM and @lamomsociety on Instagram and Tik Tok. 

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As a speaker and as an attendee, I recently had the opportunity to experience SXSW EDU, an annual learning festival that explores the future of teaching and learninge. Immersing myself in numerous sessions and roundtable discussions, I found myself inspired and, quite frankly, in awe.

The caliber of speakers and the depth of discussions at SXSW EDU conference in March affirmed how critical education is in shaping the future. Artificial intelligence (AI) dominated the conversation across almost every category (nearly half the sessions offered were about AI and/or edtech). One thing that stood out was the fresh perspective on early childhood education, a topic that also found itself intertwined with discussions of AI.

A standout moment came during a roundtable discussion led by Michelle Kang, CEO of the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC). The session sparked passionate discourse on the current and future state of early childhood education. Drawing from those conversations, here are my top 10 takeaways from SXSW EDU, specifically as they relate to the early childhood years (birth to five years):

1. Early childhood education is gaining traction

For years, early childhood education has taken a backseat at SXSW EDU, but the most recent conference marked a shift. Early education’s growing presence at the conference reflects a broader recognition of the field’s significance, perhaps an acknowledgment that the first five years of life are the most critical in a child’s development.

2. “It takes a village”

The phrase “it takes a village to raise a child” remains as relevant as ever. Education extends beyond the classroom. Every interaction a child has, whether with a doctor, a family member, a religious leader or a community member, plays a role in their development and growth. This perspective reinforces the idea that learning doesn’t stop when school ends. It’s an ongoing process shaped by many different people and experiences.

3. Early education is a national issue, not a partisan one

Kang emphasized that early childhood education must be seen as an integral part of the entire education system, not a separate entity. A national movement needs to challenge antiquated ideas to ensure that early learning is prioritized (in education policy, reporting, funding, etc.) and that there’s no room to politicize the issue.

4. Early educators deserve better pay and respect

Educators working with children aged 0-5 are often undervalued and frequently mistaken for babysitters rather than trained professionals. This perception contributes to low wages and workforce shortages. Addressing this issue isn’t just about equity; it’s about improving outcomes for the students.

5. Early education as an anti-poverty strategy

Investing in early childhood education is one of the most effective long-term anti-poverty strategies. Research shows that a strong foundation in the early years can significantly reduce the likelihood of unemployment, incarceration and poor health outcomes later in life (just to name a few).

6. Funding dilemma: STEM in early education

Investing in STEM education at the high school level yields immediate returns on investment, making it attractive to funders. However, research suggests that introducing basic STEM concepts early on in a child’s life (even during preschool years), plays a crucial role in future academic success. Despite this data point, early STEM education remains significantly underfunded.

7. The power of storytelling in advocacy

One of the most effective ways to push for change in early education is by amplifying and sharing success stories. Every community issue can, in some way, be traced back to early childhood education so it’s a relevant issue for all. Communicating these connections is essential in garnering public support and investment.

8. Mental health should be a priority

While awareness of the importance of mental health in early childhood education is growing, resources remain scarce, especially in rural areas. Additionally, some mental health professionals hesitate to work in early education settings due to liability concerns, so addressing these gaps (while destigmatizing mental health/social emotional learning) is important to support the emotional well-being of our youngest learners. At Children’s Institute, we understand this, so we invest in mental health supports for all our early childhood programs — in the classroom and for the family.

9. Bridging the gap between policymakers and educators

A recurring frustration among attendees was the disconnect between classroom educators and policymakers and administrators. Teachers on the ground often feel unheard when policies are developed without considering the realities of their daily experiences. Ensuring that educators have a seat at the table is key to creating meaningful dialogue. Here in California, Head Start Advocacy Day took place in Sacramento on March 18, where all sides had the opportunity to share from their perspectives.  

10. AI in early childhood education?

The idea of integrating AI into early childhood education is met with both enthusiasm and skepticism. While AI has the potential to personalize learning experiences, especially for neurodivergent students and language learners, its implementation should be guided by ethics. Establishing a framework for responsible AI use in early education is imperative as the technology continues to evolve.

SXSW EDU made one thing clear: early childhood education is critical in offering the best start for future success. With more awareness of its impact, the field seems to be gaining momentum, but significant challenges remain. Addressing issues of funding, compensation, mental health and policy alignment will require continued advocacy, investment and innovation. If this year’s conference is any indication, the conversation is one we can’t ignore. For more information on our approach to early childhood education, please visit childrensinstitute.org/early-childhood.

NOTE: For six key trends shaping the future of education, visit laparent.com/trends-shaping-education-sxsw-edu.

Hyesun Ahn is a former Fulbright Scholar to Austria and works as the Marketing & Communications Manager at Children’s Institute.

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